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SK visit leaves me nauseated

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Submitted by bookgirl on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 8:17pm

I got off work today to--SURPRISE, and unscheduled SK visit. I just got done with a long day at work. I was happy to learn that I'm pregnant last week, DH and I are now expecting our second child after a harrowing struggle with infertility. So, I'm exhausted and I've discovered a whole new variety of smells people bring in when looking for books and yes, I already was a little grouchy. Well, now I'm nauseated too. I think it's the stress.
I have convinced DH not to tell SKs about the pregnancy yet. I've had previous miscarriages and I said that I want to wait until we know the baby's healthy and we're out of the dangerous part. I don't think that's really it, though. I just don't want them to know. I feel protective over this, even though I know it doesn't make any sense. I just don't feel like it's any of their damn business. I know that it's probably not the 'right' thing to feel, but we'll have to tell them eventually anyway.
They're all outside playing basketball right now and I've started to wonder if maybe hiding out isn't the right way to handle this. Afterall, I feel stuck with them, maybe it's time they feel like they're stuck with me too. I am famous for things like taking their crayons and markers away after they ruined their carpet, not letting them jump on my brand new couch. Not to mention, I don't have the lovely escape of drinking when they're here anymore.
I'm sure I sound negative right now, but I feel negative!

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Submitted by sad4kidswwackas... on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 8:22pm

You will be OK! What you are feeling is totally normal and if you want to wait awhile before announcing the new arrival, then wait. Your mother bear insticts are already kicking in and your pregnancy just feels "sacred' right now. Theres nothing wrong with that. Wait a little while longer and enjoy the "glow" between you and your husband, its something that all yours right now and one thing that you don't have to share with the rest of the world that consumes and absorbs you. Hiding out is OKay to do, sometimes we need to do that to be alright later.

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Submitted by BMJen on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 8:31pm

Oh girl. We didn't tell anyone about our baby until we knew we were in the clear. You are making a good decision. I was of the mindset of "Why get everyone's panties in a bunch if it's not meant to be". Thank the Lord it was, and now she's here and is perfect. You handle this how YOU think is best. You're the mommy afterall!! Wink

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Submitted by coySM on Wed, 03/31/2010 - 10:35pm

someone had a post similar to this a few weeks ago. I think your feelings are common and you are not alone.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 12:58am

I don't get that whole "we have to tell the kids immediately"...my brother is 8yrs younger than me and I remember talking about my mom was going to have a baby and shortly after she did...we didn't even go to the hospital...none of us were scarred by that...and the whole jealousy, how will they react, blah, blah...who cares! In intact families the parents decide to have more kids and that's it! If the kids are jealous, oh well, get over it! Sigh...

Congrats & relax.,.it's about you & the baby...