She is nasty and I hate her
I went over to the BM's parents house last night with DH to tell them they werent going to see the kids for awhile. The fat, nasty bitch BM walks in the door. She has a scowl on her face the whole time. My DH confronts all of them about why when SS9 gets home from his visits there he is all upset with me and says he doesnt like me and seems depressed. The bitch BM says "I NEVER say anything about her at all. All I tell him is how much I love him." My BD5 also has spent most of her life visiting that family (mind you BM was never in the picture). I get jumped by the grandmother about how I hug my daughter first when I would come over to pick them up and not my SS. Give me a fucking break! When I would walk in the door my daughter would see me and yell "MOMMY!!" and run into my arms. My SS has never done this.
These people are fucking crazy and they need to stay away from my kids. They twist everything that we say and go running to my MIL about every little thing. They have her on their side as well. I am 29 and I think my DH and I are fully capable of making decisions for our children without outside help! My MIL is a complete control freak who is trying to control all three of her kids lives including my husband. I WANT TO MOVE FAR FAR AWAY!!!! They all treat him like he is a child incapable of making his own decisions.
This will get better, this will get better, this will get better.
Lord please help me.
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THIS WILL GET BETTER!!!!! DH
THIS WILL GET BETTER!!!!!
DH is on your side. KEEP THOSE EVIL PEOPLE AWAY and ENJOY YOUR PEACE!!!
Yay. They are crossing the line!!!!
I'm happy to hear your DH is
I'm happy to hear your DH is on your side and went there to stand up for you! That's a very good thing!! Stand strong together, and this WILL pass
Thank you so much! I am so
Thank you so much! I am so proud of him for stepping up. The next obstacle will be the wrath of his mother...the controlling MIL. I hope he can tell her to back off...
Hey, you are right they are
Hey, you are right they are acting crazy. I think BM forgot to tell you the rest of the story about how she never says anything about you at all. It is very easy to alienate a child against another parent or stepparent without saying a single direct word about them.
For example, when it comes time for SS to visit dad and you BM will pull out the histrionics for who knows how long. She would, with tears in her eyes, say things like, “mommy loves you so much that when you are away I cry myself to sleep every night. Mommy gets so lonely when you are away and you are my little man now that dad doesn't love US anymore. I worry that you are never going to come back. Nobody loves you as much as much as I do.” You get my gist.
She likely has the boy in tears and filled with guilt before he even leaves her house. Then she would have the audacity to say to any one who will listen, I can’t help it he gets like that whenever he is going to visit dad. BS!!! Of course you know why BM. You just spent however long it took to whip the child into a frenzy of fear, sadness and guilt. Nice work mom!
Then BM would go over to MIL in tears and distraught about how SS doesn’t want to visit dad because of you. MIL looks for fault with you, and on and on it goes. All it is, is a covert campaign by BM to deny dad the pleasure of his own child until he gets rid of you. They believe that you are wickedly controlling your husband, when in fact it is them who are trying to control him.
It is not easy learning to encourage your children to enjoy their time with dad and stepmom, and trusting them enough to have the best interests of the child at heart. And some women never master it.
Wow. reading these posts
Wow. reading these posts makes me feel relief in knowing that I am not the only one who has to deal with crazy bm's and a bf. But at the same time, it scares the hell out of me to know that there are so many nasty people out there in the world! I'm glad your DH is supportive! That makes the biggest difference in the world. My SO is very supportive also, but thats because while I deal with 2 different bm's, he also deals with a bf who is just as vindictive! Lord grant me the courage to not poison anyone today! lol
Donna123, OMG!! That's our
Donna123, OMG!! That's our BM!!! On thankgiving day she asked if we could pick the kids up late morning.. Early afternoon so she could have "thanksgiving breakfast" with them.. Well when BF and I arrived at bm's house, we walk in and bm and kids are nowhere in sight, well bm's boyfriend (nice guy lol) says hello and says "Bm is in her room, she is having a rough day" (as he rolls his eyes) well bm's mom (who at the time was living there) also walks into the kitchen and says "bm is in her room crying, cause she is gonna be ALONE all day on thanksgiving!" BOO F*ING HOO!!! Well sd4 comes out of bm's room balling her eyes out, hyperventilating saying "I'm styaing here with mommy cause I don't want her to be all alone today!" Well sd6 also starts crying and ss9 is looking quite sad.. Bf and I look at eachother and he head to sd's room to grab her things so we can get out!! Well BM's bf looks at me and says he is utterly annoyed with bm cause right before we sent a text to say we're were on the way, bm was fine.. Then when she got the text.. (Get ready for this) bm went and crawled into bed and started crying and telling the kids how sad she was to be alone away from her family on thanksgiving!!! I could have killed her!!! We get the kids out to the car after about 15 mins of sd4 about to have a tiny heart attack cause she was so upset.. And all the kids are in the car crying, I was LIVID! I could not believe that BM did this to her kids and brought them into her self absorbed, sickening self pity party!
You said it exactly Donna123!
You said it exactly Donna123! They do think I somehow have my DH brainwashed or something. It is a sick sick family. I feel for you dguiwh2334. At least we don't give her visitation nor does he live with her. He has never had a relationship with her for more than 6 months. I think this is the longest she has ever been around. I wanted to jump on her and strangle her last night TRUST ME! Ohhh she was pissed when we said he would no longer have a cell phone. That is how she gets to him. She says no one could ever love him more than her and once she got upset because instead of saying he loved her back he said ok. She is sick and manipulative! She has borderline personality disorder too. She is unable to feel love for anyone but herself!