Wow, I am so glad to find this site. I need some helpful advice. At the least, somewhere to vent. It helps to see how others deal with the situations with skids. I am not really sure what DH stands for: Dear Hubby? I married my wonderful husband 2 1/2 years ago. We are the best of friends. My youngest daughter and I moved four hours away from her bio dad and my other BD. We drive to meet halfway every weekend so the girls can both be with me or their bio dad on the weekends together. They absolutely adore their dad too. My hubby has a BD13 and very jealous and mean to my bd12. My daughter has done nothing to provoke it. It is a scene from Mean Girls in true life I swear. SD gets around her friends and says stuff like "Why does she have to come in here" She singles her out and it gets mama bear in me really pissed! Do you make them play together? How do you handle the situations like this? They are two completely different kids. My BD gets good grades, plays in band, previous gymnastics, loves Justin Beiber, makes honor roll, has issues with me repeating directions from time to time but overall is an awesome, kind, loving and considerate child who would never think to hurt anyones feelings or make them feel left out. Skid on the other hand wants belly pierced, listens to hard rock, has missed 40 days of school already, likes to show alot of skin, and loves drama. I handed it over to hubby-its his daughter. We discipline our own kids and that seems to work for us well so far. He is away on work alot and SD only comes when she wants when he is home. I had the worst dream of just telling SD like it is and calling her out on how mean she is. Hubby and family seem to feel sorry for her at times. SD has lost an older Sis from her BM previous marriage. I empathize but that doesnt excuse bad behaviour with my kids. I woke up from a bad dream of telling my Skid just how it was and how hateful and mean she was being. I didnt like that feeling. I try my best to be a good step mom. She loves me, calls me mom and tells me she loves me and hugs me all the time. Her issues are that she is so selfish that she is jealous of my kids and is mean and keeps a separation there. I dont know if she will ever accept, especially since her BM doesnt help and is a depressed prescription drug addict that stays passed out or at the casino half the time. She lets her run a muck and walk her friends home at 2am. She lets her wear short shorts and spaghetti strap tanks that show lots cleavage and bra straps. Can you tell I dont like her BM? lol. I really needed to let this out.