My ex is an idiot
Ok so quick run down.... Back when ex dragged my divorce out 22 months I asked for court order phone times because he called ALL the time. Seriously...41 times in 2 days. I got the court order and he can't call me.. The kids make the call. It's twice a week between an half an hour time period
Anyways I'm in the middle of a long hiring process for a great job. 2 hours away. I have sole legal and the way BF visitation is outlined it only says he is to pick them up from school. Doesn't say where. But I'm not a jerk, Ive hired an attorney and am going to get the move away order and re-outline pick ups and drop offs. I don't have to do this by law.. But it is better for my kids if I get it all outlined
So DS is kinda excited about this whole process. He was on the phone with BF talking about it. As normal BF responds with there is no way your mom is getting this job and you are not moving. BS responded with well what are you going to do? It's not like it is against the law mom can move and take us.
Well, crap kid. Stop looking laws up online.
The reason I say BF is an idiot???? His son is smarter then him already and BF allows BS9 to talk like this to him. I told BS .."hey, we don't talk to adults like that" he got off the phone and told me I always say whatever I want to dad. He never stops it or says anything about it. In fact he laughs most of the time. I told BS I don't care what BF lets you do. When you are in this house, whether you are talking to him or not you will respect adults. BS just said ok mom, I understand and went off
BF is stupid if he doesn't see how big of a problem this will be in 3 yrs. he lets our son run his house. This is about 25% of the reason DD doesn't want to go visit anymore. BF is setting it up for him to have zero control or respect when these 2 are teenagers.
Seriously I demand respect from these 2. I know teenagers lose their minds. Why would I already want them to think they know more then me???
BS better never try this with me
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My ex-DH continues to amaze
My ex-DH continues to amaze me in the same manner as yours. He really is NOT stupid, but dang, he sure fakes it well.
Yes, I chose this man to father my child. Some days I just have to say, "Wow."
Yes I chose him as their dad.
Yes I chose him as their dad. But I plead ignorance and let me tell you... He was good. I was 20... He was 10 yrs older. He played his cards perfectly. He was so wonderful. Until I was stuck and our daughter was 6 months old. Once he believed he had me and I couldn't leave, he changed. Lots of put downs, name calling, threats. I didn't believe it before him but verbal and emotional abuse is harder to get over then physical. They get in your mind and make you doubt yourself.
Kids therapist has told me he believes he is the text book NPD and bi-polar. I have had a restraining order in place since half way through the divorce. He didn't show up to the first RO court hearing. I got a temp. He showed up to the second and lied his butt off. But 10 months later he had continued being him. Gave me enough and I have had a restraining order since.
You were 20. You were
You were 20. You were young.
I didn't have even that excuse. I was 25, married at 29. The head game can be horrible. I understand some of it.
For instance after the divorce I became aware that I never sat on furniture. I sat on the floor. At the marriage counselor's office I sat on the floor leaning against the chairs as I nursed my baby. Seriously. During my marriage, I sat on the floor or an ottoman. Bunch of stuff, but I was amazed years later how much I had changed throughout the relationship. Not for the better. I sat on the friggin' FLOOR at the pediatrician's office. Crimminey.
Hold strong. Good luck with the new job opportunity.