What's good for yours is NOT good for mine.

I posted on FB that I invited my niece on an outing with us in a couple of weeks and that I hope I don't regret it. My niece has shit parents and it shows in her behavior. I haven't had her in 7 months because she was so awful the last time I had her. I'm hoping 7 months is long enough that she will behave this time. If not, it will be even longer before I get her again after this.

SD22 has said many times that she is against spanking. Yet she was the first one to comment and said that she has seen my niece at the pool a few times and would have spanked her at least 4 times by now.

So....You don't believe in spanking, but you are quick to point out when someone else's kid needs a....spanking? Hmmm. Doesn't make any sense to me. I guess the standards she holds other people to don't apply to her or her little family. Big surprise. She has always expected a shit ton more out of me than she would be willing to give of herself, so this shouldn't be a surprise to me, either.

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My brother and I were abused

My brother and I were abused by our sf. He beat us with a belt over any stupid thing he could think of. Like clothes on our bedroom floor. Since when did that become a sin worthy of a beating with a belt? It was constant. Spanking is my last resort. I could probably count on my hands how many times DD19 got spanked. BS6 is a different story. He doesn't react to anything else, and sometimes not even to a spanking. But I sure as hell don't use a belt on him.

With SD, it's simply that she thinks other kids deserve spankings and hers never will. I don't doubt that my niece probably DID deserve a spanking. I just find it very hypocritical that someone who is so "spanking is bad and wrong" when it comes to her kid would be so quick to jump right to that method of discipline when saying what someone else's kid is in need of. She could have said that she would have taken her out of the pool and not let her go back, but she didn't. Ms. Anti Spanking said she would have SPANKED her.

I was spanked, unfortunately

I was spanked, unfortunately that led to harsher punishment. I believe in spanking, but only if that parent has self-control. I never had to with BS but maybe twice and he turned out fine. I think if you have expectations of behavior, kids will behave, but you must lay out those expectations often.