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Submitted by bi on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 11:27am

Today is FDH's birthday. No card or call from SD22, as usual. I posted a happy birthday post on FB for him, even though he doesn't have FB. SD commented a happy birthday to him. DD19 texted him a HB this morning and then she messaged me asking what she could get him for his birthday. I think that pretty much sums up the immense difference between SD and DD right there.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 11:37am

DH and BM included a clause in the parenting plan that on the parent's b-day, they get the kids regardless of whose scheduled time it is. I thought it was weird. Of course, I'm a childless woman so the thought of spending my birthday doing kid things sounds more unappealing than getting a root canal on my b-day.

After a couple of years of getting to know these kids, I know why they did that. The only way they would be able to get those self centered brats to acknowledge them is to force them to celebrate with them.

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Submitted by Ughugh on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 11:51am

I would HOPE this clause doesn't mean YOUR birthday! Ughhhhhh My kids take me out on my birthday and same on their dads birthday. Skids do nothing for nobody. DH and I go on a bike ride alone for his birthday. My birthday is on a major holiday, so I come second.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 11:57am

No way! It's for BM and DH's birthdays. DH already knows better if a skid visit falls on my b-day. He has to make other plans....for them. I don't even care what: trade with BM, skip a visit, arrange a sleepover at a friend's, visit the grandparents. Just keep them away from me.

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Submitted by Ljcapp1 on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 12:37pm

Merc - same with Mother's Day. I am a mom and I want to be kid free on Mother's Day.

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Submitted by Mercury on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 12:55pm

See, this is what I'm used to. My friends and family who have kids joke around about it being THEIR day and the last thing they need to do is cater to kids on THEIR day. I guess I have weird friends. Wink

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Submitted by bi on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 12:24pm

^^^^^Exactly. She is truly unbelievable. I think it's safe to say that FDH and DD19 are closer than he and SD have ever been. And that's sad.

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Submitted by bi on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 1:43pm

Hahahaha! Yup, can't keep her phone away from her belly or face long enough to use it to call her dad! She probably posted how it's a wonderful day because this is the anniversary of the birth of one of half of her ride into the world! After all, it's all about her!

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 09/11/2014 - 4:21pm

Usually it's a slow slide into nothingness.

First the half-assed "gifts." In Chef's case:

1. the hastily printed inkjet card with ink still wet
2. the lottery tickets (one for each skid)
3. The tongue depressor book mark--namely a tongue depressor with smiley face on it written in sharpie.
4. The key fob that obviously came out of one of those "claw game" machines
5. The age inappropriate birthday card that includes a "joke" about how ancient biodad is (picked out by the BM, of course)

Soon nothing. No call, not even a lame gift.