That is so wrong! How can they treat children that way?!

I'm feeling that way about my SIL, but still waiting it out. For BS1's first birthday last month (SIL is his godmother too!), she and her kids sent a birthday card late. At least she acknowledged his birthday. This month was BS2's birthday, and we didn't get one peep out of her. But I always get expensive gifts for her kids on their birthdays, and it's only a few weeks away from Christmas!

So my test will be SD's college graduation. SIL went to the same university. If she decides to go to the graduation that is hours away from her home (no tickets are needed) I will be seriously pissed because of the effort there, but no acknowledgement of our young child. Thanks a lot.

I predict that this will happen with my daughter and inlaws as well.
It's horrible, but tolerable while they're small, but what to do once they get old enough to realize the unfair treatmant?

I deal with the same thing. MIL is not my FB friend. I'm cool with that.

I feel your pain, Peanut. Been there, done that.

I defriended all my inlaws, the assorted cousins, their spouses-the whole damn lot of them over a year ago. I do have access to peak at their accounts occassionally-which I do just to keep tabs and make sure they are not coming to close to me or mine for anything.

My inlaws wont even acknowledge my children in public-even when dh or I arent with them. I get that they dont like me-and dont care-I understand that now they are mad at dh-but to not even acknowledge your grandchildren? Who the eff does that? My mil has actually been doign that to my daughter for about 2.5 years now. Long before the fallout with dh-my dd ws 13 the first time it happened. She saw mil driving ss somewhere-she began waving at them (they were driving very slowly getting ready to park)and my dd was walking straight toward them. Again, she is waving. As the car passes, the windows are down and my dd hears ss say "look there's stepsister" and my mil STILL refuses to acknowledge her. Last fall, my fil and bil were doing a craft show type event at my dd's place of employment. Her job entailed her walking past them over and over again for an 8 hour shift-they never once waved at her, smiled, or acknowledged her in anyway. Just last month, my dd saw mil in the office at her school as she was checking ss in because he was tardy again-they all stood uncomfortably in the office for 10 minutes and again mil never acknowleged her. I feel sooo bad for my dd-not that she is missing anything in so far as having a relatinship with these heinous people-but almost all these incidents have occurred with peers, friends, coworkers around her and of course they all ask-Isnt that your grandma? My dd had to admit that yes, that's her grandma, and yes she essentially shuns her in public. Who's grandma does that shit? My fave though is that my mil is an er nurse. My dd had to go to the er one night when she dislocated her shoulder in cheer practice. Her cheer coach brought her in. My mil sat right at the desk in the er and never said a word to my dd. Not one freaking word. Not even in her capacity as a nurse and "helping" professional. GAG. Sorry I am off on my own tangent now.

They've also ignored my ds at times-I dont think they shunned my youngest dd in public-but I believe it's only because at 11, she doesnt really go out and about without us. She has not spoken to her grandparents in a year. And that was one conversation. It had probably been about a year prior to that that she spoke to them last. The kids bdays have not been acknowledged in years-no acknowledgment at xmas-

Of course my ss lives with them. he was recently bought a ipad for his 15th bday. The thing that sickens me is that my kids are KIDS-theyve never done anything to her. Seriously, ever. They are not disrespectful or nasty and have never been anything but polite and well behaved-except for one occassion in which my ds was rude to her when he was 9-about 5 years ago. He made a rude comment-which I truly dont believe he meant to be rude, but felt awkward and didnt know what to say so it came out as something stupid and rude-he was immediately reprimanded-I apologized to the bitch-but she talked to my ss about it almost 5 years later and told him that's why she didnt like my ds. Now you have to know that ss, has told my mil he hates her, calls her things like "bitch ass", yells at her, etc-but she LOVES him.

Yep, I deleted all of DH's family this past winter. It's very freeing.

once i discovered that anything and everything i ever said on fb was being twisted, dissected, speculted upon and gossiped about, then some of fdh's family had the nerve to lecture me about what is and is not appropriate for me to say, BAM. they were all blocked. i told mil that i blocked all of them and now no one will see anything that offends them. problem solved. i'm sure she thought the solution was for me to fall in line with their bullshit expectations of me and never have an opinion that they may disagree with, but too damn bad. my solution works for me and i honestly don't give a fuck how they feel about it.