For some reason that I will never understand, SD22 has family of mine on her FB, people she has met once or twice, some of them not at all. I spent the day with my cousin's wife, and she told me that SD22 contacted her, basically hinting around that she wanted help with her self thrown baby shower. My cousin's wife. WTH?? This relative does hobby photography, and SD got with her for pictures once, and that's the most they really know of each other.

D told me that she told SD she didn't have a second shower when her 2nd was born (same age difference between her kids as SD's will be), they just used everything for their son that they used for their daughter, including a pink bouncer. Big deal. She said after she told her that, SD was kind of standoffish with her. She was probably irked because D basically showed surprise at the idea of a second shower instead of falling all over herself to help out.

First of all, if no one is offering to have a shower for you, that might be an indication that it's just in bad taste to have another one so soon after the first. Second, I do not understand why she chose my cousin's wife. If she wants someone to do it all for her, why didn't she ask her mom, one of her grandmas or aunts, one of her cousins, her SIL, her brother's gf, or a close friend?

I just find this incredibly pathetic. Throw yourself a shower just because this baby is a different gender so you want all brand new stuff that is for girls. Then decide you want someone else to "help", which probably means fund it for you. Then hint around to someone you are in no way at all close to to do it for you. What. The. Fuck? I suppose I will just be grateful that she isn't asking me to do it. I think she might know that that would be going too damn far, no matter how much better things are now.