SS12 threatens SS8
Ssons were arguing a few days ago and SS8 came to me for help and was explaining what happened. SS12 interrupted and started arguing his point to me. When I finally got both to calm-down and explain what happened I could see that SS12 was in the wrong.
I gave them my opinion which was for SS8 to continue and SS12 to back off. What came out of SS12’s mouth next shocked me.
He said: “That’s okay BettyRay let SS8 have his way cause I can have SS8’s stuff disappear like this” *he snapped his finger and started walking away*
I asked him what he meant by that and SS12 said that he would just get SS8 in trouble at BM’s house and then she would discipline SS8 by taking his toys or video games away.
So it didn’t matter what happened here because SS12 would eventually get revenge on SS8 at BM’s house. I couldn’t believe it! I asked him how he felt when BM took his stuff away for no reason. He said it hurt. Then I asked why he would do that to SS8. He said it was because SS8 deserved it for annoying him.
SS12 has been going to counseling because of behavioral problems at BM’s house (see previous blogs). Things had been calming down with him...but now this.
I told DH and he pulled SS12 aside and had a long talk with him. Basically DH said if he continues threatening SS8 that DH would make SS12’s stuff disappear, mainly the extracurricular activities that SS12 loves to do. DH also told BM about it too.
I just find it disturbing. IMO - It’s a form of sibling abuse.
Do any of you have this problem?
~BettyRay
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it is a form of sibiling
it is a form of sibiling abuse. I do not have this problem just one SD. and our kids don't do this, they are to little.
I would ask SS8 when he returns if his stuff was taken, if it was he should lose his things (just like what was promised to him). Do this a few times and I bet it stops.
Yup, tell him everytime he
Yup, tell him everytime he acts on his revenge over at bm's house, he'll have his stuff disappear over here. How does he like that? no?...then he shouldn't do this to his brother. He will get the message and bm should also call him on this big time!