DH called me from work and told me that he spoke with BM. He said her first name, so I knew something was up. Because he usually refers to her as SS's mother. And he had some bad news. I thought that maybe SS was in the hospital again. I wasn't prepared for what he told me. He told me that BM's DH was MURDERED. I was like what???? Murdered?? WTH happened. He said he didn't know that BM called him as she was hysterical and she told him that her DH was dead.

Well, after a couple of hours we got a clearer picture of what happened. BM lives in the central part of the state and her DH couldn't find a job in that area so he moved to the northern part of the state (about 4 hrs away from BM) to find work. He was renting a room in a house in a not so great neighborhood. At 5:40 am Monday someone knocked on the back door he opened and he was shot 3 times in the chest. He died at the scene. His roommate was also shot. He is in critical condition. We don't know the motive. There wasn't a robbery or anything. Just a senseless killing.

BM and her DH have a young son around 2. This is all so very sad and tragic. We are all still in shock.

As sad as this situation is, BM is still a snake. So she called DH as was asking for money to help get the body transported back to BM's city!!! I feel very bad for her, but really BM?!??!?! It is not my husband's responsibility to pay for your husbands final expenses. UGH!!! And of course DH puts on his superman cape and saves the day and gives her $$$$ towards the bill. (Without discussing it with me first)Because he feels bad.

I'm going to be honest. I feel really bad for BM. But I'm pissed at DH. Why does he always feel the need to rescue her? She has family, her husband has family, they should be responsible for his final expenses not DH.

Of course I can't say anything because I will look like a cold hearted b$%#h.

I did pray for BM and her DH's family last night. It was one of the hardest prayers I ever had to make. I will continue to pray for them because this so sad.