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Submitted by belle_27 on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 12:32am

my SS 10 is really big for his age, and he is a very healthy kid and play sport 3 days a week but the rest of the time he is running around and active, he isn't allowed to play video games and watch movies all day etc. my DH was a STICK as a kid and he is very healthy now, but on BM side all the boys are stocky

after meeting his friends at basketball is only hit me how fat he was actually getting. DH and BM have spoken about the issue before and have agreed to try and watch what he eats

BM only lives a few streets away from us and the kids pop around all the time, but when he was here a few days ago he had a chocolate bunny, a sugar snack bar and a chocolate milk shake! and he was 5.30! and he was off home for dinner

i was also doing the washing one day and found 12!!! thats 12! mini chocolate wrappers in his pockets. we don't keep the house stocked with things like that

i know he is a little boy and he does deserve some nice things and shouldn't only be allowed carrots sticks and water, but i'm thinking its guilty parenting and they both want to make him happy so they give him what he wants.

any suggestions on how i say or do something without "butting in"?

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Submitted by Amazed on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 8:27am

my brother went through a chubby,big boy stage when he was about to go through puberty. he was one chunky little boy...then WHAM! He grew like crazy and thinned out to stick-like measurements even though his diet was the same and his activity level was the same.

Sometimes kids get chubby, then they go through a huge growth spurt...doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong.

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Submitted by Pantera on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 9:16am

Thats what happened with my brother. He was really short and got really chunky and literally overnight he shot up and was tall and thin. It was his 8th grade summer. We all laugh about it now because my parents were really starting to worry.

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Submitted by Elizabeth on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 8:28am

Whatever you do, don't focus on his weight. Focus on being healthy. And that means eating healthy foods. That's what I do with my BD6, and I really feel she is healthy. She's not overweight (she's about normal for her age, maybe a big on the skinny side). I encourage her to eat a variety of foods. I allow her to snack (she can't eat a big meal, her stomach just isn't big enough) but try to make sure the majority are healthy snacks. But I don't spend a bunch of time focusing on what she eats.

Appropriate physical activity coupled with a healthy diet should do the trick. Encourage him to try new foods. My BD6 actually LOVES "grown-up" (complex) foods and won't eat off the kids' menu because it's too boring. She wants her turkey sandwich to have lettuce and tomato and avocado and sprouts and things like that. We went to a burger joint and she shared my sandwich, which had tomato, lettuce, and pineapple on it.

You can't do ANYTHING about what he eats at BM's house unless she's truly willing to help. When SD was younger she had a serious weight issue because both BM and DH were trying to "win" her love and that meant letting her eat out all the time. BM was sure she was feeding SD healthy (I'm not even sure if BM knows what that means), so she finally agreed to keep a food diary, as did DH, of what they were feeding SD. It didn't take them long to figure out the culprit was just a BUNCH of unhealthy food.

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Submitted by belle_27 on Mon, 04/19/2010 - 5:50pm

thanks guys for the advice! i will keep it all in mind

im really hoping on the fact he will just have a big growth spurt and we dont have to worry with it, but if he is stocky we will always love him and it wont be a big issue if he is healthy

but we all focus on healthy choices and making the right discussions so its never been about his wieght ever, god the poor thing would feel awful but he does know he is bigger then everyone else but it doesn't bother him to much because he gets to play the good positions in football!

so i think when he is at our house and all the easter chocolate is gone we will just have a big bowl of fruit!

thanks girls!!