I haven't been on here in a couple of weeks but decided to post how making my rules and consequence chart went.....so far....AMAZING!
it was almost like dad didn't know how to parent...he has told me repeatedly over the last few weeks how those charts have helped him as much as it has helped the kids.Don't get me wrong everything isn't "fixed" but a dramatic difference.
My first rule was lying...if you lie..you have to write a paper to who you lied to and if it was also someone else you threw in there for good measure you must write them a paper letting them know you lied on them....2 wks have went by and last night was the first paper to be written by SD10..she had to write 2 papers because she included 2 others in her lie(1 being her teacher)1 to me because I was who she lied to...and to her dad cause she lied on him!!! The first paper was almost funny because she blamed everyone else....and she was ok with the first paper but by the time she got to the last one...she realized it wasnt to fun anymore...lesson taught...lesson slowly being learned!