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Submitted by baseballgirly on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 3:02pm

SOs kids take all of his spare time. If he has any vacation time, it is spent with them. EOW he has his kids and every opposite weekend he works on the Saturday. Needless to say, we don't exactly have the option for a weekend or heaven forbid a WEEK away together.

Has it ever happened to anyone that the skids just didn't want to hang out with Dad??? Maybe they will grow out of wanting to come here an hour away from their home and stay home instead?!?!!? Am I hoping for too much??? Is there any hope at all!?!??

I dread them coming here and being around. I DREAD IT. Summer seems to be the worst because they come for weeks at a time. This summer it happens to be 2 separate weeks in July meaning they will be here EVERY WEEKEND IN JULY!!!!

FU#K.

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Submitted by herewegoagain on Thu, 06/28/2012 - 4:08pm

My DH did this when we first got together. When we had his kid, we couldn't do anything because BM would call and call and harass us and at least once before she had followed us to a restaurant and made a huge scene. Needless to say, we used to love to dance and then we could not go on Fridays that he did not have her because he had to get up early Saturday. Then on Saturday he would be too tired to go out. I tried to have him either pick up his kid on Saturdays so we could go out Friday or at least every once in a while leave her with a sitter a few hours or anything...He wouldn't do it. You know what I did? Every weekend he had his daughter I made plans with my friends. Every other weekend I had a "free" weekend for myself. Originally he got pissed off because he was missing out on a party because he had his kid and THEN "we never really spent any fun time together". I didn't care. I told him his daughter came to see him and that is all that mattered. After a few months, he got the hint and started not working on Saturdays when he could or at least would leave as early as he could and go out with me on Saturday night...didn't matter how "tired" he was. Eventually, he had enough fun with me alone to stop working those Saturdays all together. Smile

So, you need to make your needs heard...you need to stand up for yourself. If he doesn't care about your needs, there is no reason for you to cook, clean and play housewife when he has his kids. Period. It won't be easy at first, but if he truly cares about you, he will understand how unfair he is being.