Yesterday, after much discussion about my disengagement as well as the entire visit SO told SD what the deal was going to be from here on out. He told her that since she has been nasty to me basically the entire time she has been here and has decided that she sees no problem with being nasty to me that I am done putting myself out there for her and I am done associating with her. He told her that, from now on, if she needs something that she can't do for herself, she has to ask him and, if it is something that he can't do and needs me to do then and only then will he ask me to do it.

He laid down the new law of the land very well with her. I was so impressed. He kept it short, he kept it firm and to the point. He didn't lecture her, he simply just said "SD, you did this, I refuse to let you do that in our home, so, here's what's happening as a result". Wow. He told her that he is extremely disappointed and aggravated with her choice to be disrespectful to not only another human being but someone who lives in this house. He told her that he expects her to be respectful of me, that I am not just "some girl" who lives here, and I am not just "dad's partner", but because I am a human being I therefore deserve respect. He told her that the disappointment is also because she decided that, even after being a snot to me (Yes, he called her out on being a snot), that she saw no reason to apologize to me which is just as bad as being disrespectful. He told her that it is now her job to figure out where she fits into our family out here and that if she can't figure it out, oh well. He asserted to her that he does not love her any less, but, he is horribly disappointed in her choice of actions/behaviors. He also asserted to her that he wants her to come visit us out here and spend time with us (I was so proud that he was being so specific with his language here because, right now, he's right. I DON'T want her to visit us because she acts like a horrible little troll to me, but, he's right in telling her that if she visits, it is visiting us, not him, but US).

He apologized to me for the hurt and the disrespect in front of her. He restated to her that he was disappointed and that she is never to be disrespectful to me or anyone else in this house (or in society in general). After he wrapped up he asked her if she had anything she wanted to say. She shook her head no and went off on her own merry little way. SO and I went to change so we could go to counseling and I told him that it was very telling that she still refused to apologize to me after every incident of being a rude little troll. I told him that I can only give her a smidgen of benefit of the doubt because, perhaps, she figured his apology covered it for her, but, that it still doesn't make it right. He surprised me when he said "No, she doesn't deserve that benefit because she has to start taking responsibility for her own actions which means apologizing for herself." *Swoon*.

This morning she's been rude to both of us. She said nothing to me (good because I intended to ignore her presence completely) and she said nothing to SO besides "I think we should go to camp now" at like, 8:30, way too early to leave. Hahahahaha. I'm making her uncomfortable. And she clearly does not even want to be in the same room as me, because, when SO told her "no, it's not time to leave yet, I have to walk the dog first" she didn't even wait for him to invite her along, she just followed him outside very quickly. So hahahahaha SD! I'm GLAD you are uncomfortable being in the room with me because it is a taste of your own damn medicine! You are not a perfect little ray of sunshine, you have been acting like a horrible little troll on a power trip. I guess she thought I was going to hide out in our bedroom or something? I was in there yesterday when she came home because I was watching a True Blood but, I didn't avoid being in the same room as her, just ignored her the rest of the evening - which was easy because we had counseling and she went to bed before we got home. But I will not be put out in my own house.

I told SO last night that she can continue being rude to me for as long as she likes as long as he keeps asserting to her that it is NOT acceptable and that he does all that he can to correct her horrible misconceptions that her getting in trouble is because I'm an "evil" "judgmental" person and is really because she acts like a troll. But, I told him that it will always bug me more when she's rude to him because he is her flesh and blood; no, that doesn't excuse her from being rude to others, but, she should at least be considerate, polite, and respectful of her own father. I told him this morning briefly, as they left, that I'm not thrilled with her new choice to be rude to him as well because it's just going to make the rest of her time here uncomfortable. For her!