First, my SD 10 mom never lets us have her on the actual holiday. We had to fight for Easter this year even though her mom already had taken her to 2 different easter egg hunts. We didn't feel like fighting her (even though it's court ordered she doesn't follow it) and just took her from Saturday to today (Christmas Eve)

We did Christmas for SD early at Grandma's house and I spent all month trying to find her the perfect gifts. I only spent about $125 on my BD7 and BS1 but spend over $200 on SD on new clothes, shoes and a toy tomagatchi that she wants. She wasn't happy with any of it. I let my daughter open up her book collection at grandmas and she was so happy, even my son was happy with his cheap sorting blocks. I sighed the next day and told her next year I was just going to give her $200 and she was like what, $200! I told her "the presents I gave you (I literally bought everything) cost well over $200 and suddenly she loves everything. And I'm not talking about appreciate, as soon as she found out the clothes I bought came from the mall and not walmart (where her mom buys her clothes) she suddenly loves them (didn't matter I spent hours trying to find the perfect outfits) and now the tamogatchi she wanted gets played with. This kid literally always goes around saying "this person spent this much on me or this" and that's how she judges value of things.

Anyways, last month, during my sons birthday, she burst into tears (again like always) and I found out it was because she was getting a poor grade in math so while decoarting (by myself) and throwing my sons first birthday, I was also the ONLY person teaching her and helping her practice so she would pass her test that was the next day. If any attention of mine was focused on my son, she would immeditely interject. MY SONS FIRST BIRTHDAY, all of my SO family was there and not one offered to help her, not one (including her) thanked me for helping her. When I asked how she did on her test, she told me it was easy and that was it. No thank you, nothing. 

See her mother, her father (my SO) and just about everyone in her family has lead her to believe she is just smart. She doesn't have to study, she doesn't have to learn things, she just magically knows everything and she comes off with a very KNOW IT ALL attitude. Constantly goes around "explaining things" and when I try and tell her that's not right she argues and tries to twist it. She has literally no friends because of this and teachers are annoyed by her interuptions.

Which brings me to whats making me mad today. My SO was talking about how next year she hopes to make money by doing yard work around the neighborhood (usually her grandma or my SO would interject and say to focus on school and they'll pay for anything she needs, no we don't live with grandma but visit her frequently) and I cut in before my SO could and told her that sounds like a good plan. She then goes "but sooo many people are doing it, I'll have competition, I guess I could just fix peoples sinks for money". and I very logically asked "do you know anything about sinks, can you take one apart and put it back together" and she goes no "but we (meaning her mom) watched a video and fixed our sink at home" and I sat there and tried to politely explain to her that NO ONE is going to pay a 10 year old with no experience or licence money to come into their home and youtube how to fix their sink. When she got upset I asked my boyfriend for back up and this guy actually tells her "I believe you can do anything you want" which only furthur sets that mind set that she can in fact do anything and me telling her that she should learn and study for plumbing, if that's what she wishes to do, is unreasonable and I'm just being a B. So I walked past my SO upset and told him it would be nice to get some gosh damn support and he tells me to go take a nap so now I'm upstairs angry while I can hear his daughter happily chatting know she got her way.

Also, not relavant but I was telling my boyfriend how I was sad they weren't going to make a sequel and she interrupts and cheers that I'm sad. Her dad lightly said that was a bit rude but then joked around with her so she would get sad over his "parenting"