I am so frustrated at this point. I usually try not to engage with arguing with a 9 year old but this morning I slipped. Typically I can ignore and just move one but not this morning. I ask you excited about g-parents coming up and talking about missing a few days of the summer program and I will pull him out. He seemed a little like hesitant so I said do not worry you will not miss trips. The rest follows:

Hey I am looking for ideas not put downs about how I should not do it and blah blah blah. Anyway when SO and I get married we both want to incorporate SS9. Not for the whole thing but a part of it as he means a lot to both of us. He is really excited for us all to have the same last name. I want to give him a chance to be involved with the ceremony. Just nor sure what to do exactly, so I am looking for ideas. Let's face it SO and him both accepted me into their little family.

Again please just ideas of what maybe you have done or seen.

Thanks

Last night I get home and SS9 is all excited because they had a book thing at school yesterday. He could donate and exchange them. he has so many book I said well lets donate 12 and you can exchange 3. When I come home he has 12. All I can think is something is really fishy here. I know what I wrote I know what I said and I know I explained to him why we are donating. I bought most of the books for him to read and my mom had just bought him like several brand new books too.

If you have kept up with my blog you all know I have a SS9 who lives with me and my SO full time and BM is not in the picture. We are getting married in October.(Might be legally sooner due to switching jobs and insurance.) Anyway.....

SO and I both agreed that I would like to adopt SS and make everything legal. I just want to know when I should start. Should I talk to a lawyer soon just to see what is all involved and make sure we all our ducks in a row so that one we are married the process will hopefully go smoother? Should I wait.