OMG...she did it again!
Told us she was dropping off SD at our house, that is. See my previous blog about BM continuing to demand that she be allowed to do exchanges at my home. It has been an ongoing battle for 3 years even though it clearly states in the CO that all exchanges occur at a neutral location. It is one boundary I am not budging on and BM cannot stand it.
I had a long talk with DH after last week's fiasco, so he is really backing me up this time (yay DH, better late than never).
Anyway, BM scheduled ALL of SD's back to school dr. appts for tomorrow (DH's day). DH knew he'd never get her to change them with such late notice and school starts next week, so he agreed to get her later. So today he sends an email asking where/when last appt is so he can meet her there. She says "I'll just drop her at your house when we're done." Um, how about no. So she and DH send about 10 emails back and forth, her insisting she will drop SD at our house, DH saying no, you won't. Finally, he calls me and I say look, just meet her at the dr, you know where and when she'll be there and she won't withhold SD in front of all those people. Just have the CO showing it's your time.
Funny thing is, I just looked up the dr. office where BM says the last appt is and they are CLOSED on Tuesdays. What the hell is this bitch up to now?
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I have a feeling there are no
I have a feeling there are no appointments, especially if the DR is closed on tuesday. She just wants any reason to show up at your house. Fuck it, tell her to meet DH at the closest corner, not at your house. I would let her know also, that he now knows the doctors shes being taken to are closed tomorrow, so she needs to come clean or you take her back to court on a contempt charge. Hell, say a kidnapping charge. Fuck with her back. This is HIS time and shes lying about shit just to kick at you. Kick back.
I would just keep telling her
I would just keep telling her that no one is home.
DH should say something like "sorry I'm not home, I'm in town and rather meet here"
Can you file a retraining order against her to not come to your property? Not sure how that works though. If she's high conflict, I can't see why you would be denied it as a precaution.
Or modify the CO to specify that exchange are NOT to be done at the house.
The CO already specifies a
The CO already specifies a neutral exchange spot for ALL exchanges. We got that put in last time we went to court. She's been trying for years to do them at our house simply because she's a BPD boundary pusher. The latest excuse is that it's "not in SD's best interest to do exchanges at a coffee shop." Yet they've been doing exchanges there since SD was 1!!
Yeah, he's telling her he won't be here & he'll meet them at the dr. We'll see what happens.
Norestraing orders in our state unless there is an assault ir evidence of a threat like a letter ir recorded convo.
Wow...she really should not
Wow...she really should not come to your home. Just leave so no one is there to answer the door.
She cannot force the drop off at your home. Stay strong and teach her how you want to be treated.
Best of luck.
Yeah, but our BM won't stay
Yeah, but our BM won't stay in the car. Been there, done that. She is a pathological liar and impossible to trust. I need to feel safe in my own home. Besides, DH does the exchanges, not me.
He offered but BM refuses to
He offered but BM refuses to give him times/places for the early appts. Also, as much as he loves his daughter, he'd rather drive toothpicks under his nails than to spend an entire day with BM. Two parents are overkill for routine dr appts. and BM won't give up the control and just let him take her alone.