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Crazy Cat Lady

So, a lady in our neighborhood sent an email around trying to find homes for 4 precious kittens that were going to be taken to the pound today if they didn't. SD BEGGED my DH and me to get one. We said no. She also told her BM...who is taking ALL of them. One side it pisses me off because she can't pay her bills to begin with and is constantly talking about how she's a single mother and can't afford this or that (usually something for the SD--clothes, PADS/TAMPONS, school supplies, etc).

Court?

SD is 11...since she is so close to 12, would it be worth it to go court now or wait until she is 12 and chooses? I'm worried that she will feel obligated to stay with her mother (mainly because BM is RUHLESS and will do anything--guilt trip, bribery, lying, etc to make sure she doens't live with us). I even suggested to my DH that we do 50/50 but he knows she wont' go for it since that would greatly reduce (or even remove) her CS.

Thoughts?

Control-freak

I need some suggestions as to how to deal with a crazy BM. I always knew the BM was going to be an issue but it keeps getting worse and worse. BM's perspective is that she is more important than anybody else because she is the MOTHER. The child's father is nothing more than a monthly paycheck (that she tells the SD he hardley ever gives her even though he often gives it to her EARLY to bail her out)...even though he is the rational & responsible parent.

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