Both of my sd daughters acknowledge me and sometimes my ss does. I was quite surprised when they did because osd and ss's mom has a good relaionship with them. Ysd mother passed before I met her and I thought it was so terrific of her. Found out later the whole thing was a manipulation. Now, she doesn't even speak to me.

i agree that it depends on the situation. earlier on, i think i should have been recognized, as i did everything for that brat. today, no, not at all. i have nothing to do with her and dont' want her to think of me on mother's day. no worries there!

Maybe when SD5 is older and she decides to to do something because she wants to.
But right now, we make sure that mothers day she spends with her mom and fathers day she is with her dad no matter on whos weekend it falls.
I think If i tried to do some psycho "get some time on mothers day"....would be in inappropriate in my opinion and overstepping boundaries in my opinion.

I think it's fine and respectful of my children to recognize their SM on Mother's Day. Now I would be schocked if SS13 had so much as a "Happy Mothers' Day" for me and am thrilled that this year - and moving forward, he will be at his mother's for mother's day.

I do expect DH to recognize me and hopefully assist my kids in doing something special.

Last year,I was LIVID with DH for lending SS money so he could buy something for BM for mothers day. This was less than a month after she was vandalizing DH's cars and we pulled SS out of school because he was scared of BM "taking" him from school. I was PISSED.

(And I will admit that I enjoyed sending BM a text message on valentine's day that particular year letting her know how much I was enjoying the flowers SS picked for me and the card he made me). Total lie, but the BITCH had put us through hell at that point - and continues to do so whenever she can (though the restraining order has put a stop to this lately).

It would be nice to have some acknowledgement of the amount of motherly acts I carry out for their benefit since their own mother can't seem to BE a mother to them. Do I expect it? Nope. Will I [ever] get it? Nope. BM will always get all the credit for doing nothing more than dropping them out of her crotch.

I do not want any recognition on Mother's Day in regard to skid. It would seem fake and put on and frankly, it would just piss me off. He is not my kid, I am in no way a mother to him, and being recognized on Mother's Day by him or DH for skid, would just be a joke.

Nope, I'm not really involved with the SS16. And he's kind of snotty these days, so don't want to be involved. And do not expect or want anything on Mother's Day. He never thanks anyone for anything. He's just a surly depressing teenager. A walking Zoloft commercial.

Mother's Day is almost a national holiday in my family. My mother had 8 sisters so it was a pretty matriarchal family.

It's the one event where you are expected to show up - no excuses allowed. But it's never been about presents - just be there.

If I wanted to be a real bitch I would invite SS who would jump at the opportunity to be with my family and leave his mother in the ditch. But as much as I don't like BM I'm not going there.

I still remember my first Mother's day as an NCP stepmom. I had no children of my own so I didn't expect anything. DH bought my a nice bracelet & SD 4 at the time, "bought" me the earrings to match. I asked why as I wasn't a "real mom".

DH looked at me & said "You do the job, even if you don't get the credit. I know & I appreciate."