Evict 23yr old step-daughter and her infant
I am 51, in a relationship, own my home. Allowed 20yr old "step-daughter" to move in temporarily, now been 3 years she got knocked up and I have the baztard child here too. She won't leave, her father doesn't have the balls to kick her out with the baby. I am going g to evict her or sell this house out from under her and NOT allow her in my new home. Sick of this moochy irresponsible idiot!
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Ha! I mean, really - some
Ha! I mean, really - some lady is posting about being hoodwinked into supporting an unrelated adult and said adult's kid, feeling trapped by the situation, and the most important thing is that she used a word that's nowadays seen as rude to describe the kid? Like THAT's the most important of her issues?
The issue this lady has is that she's let her DH walk all over her, his kid walk all over her, and now that she's done with being a doormat, she feels like she has to start guns a-blazing.
She just forgot she's in charge of her life.
Bastard: noun: bastard;
Bastard: noun: bastard; plural noun: bastards
1. archaic derogatory a person born of parents not married to each other.
synonyms: illegitimate child, child born out of wedlock; love child; natural child/son/daughter
"he had fathered a bastard"
2. informal
an unpleasant or despicable person.
"he lied to me, the bastard!"
synonyms: scoundrel, villain, rogue, rascal, weasel, snake, snake in the grass, miscreant, good-for-nothing, reprobate;
In this case the child is a bastard and so is the child's BM. One is an out of wedlock child the other is a good for nothing.
Bastard seems equally appropriate in reference to both the worthless POS BM and her unfortunate child. Unfortunate to have been birthed by this worthless POS BM.
Not a pleasant word but a perfectly appropriate word in this situation IMHO.
This SM has tolerated far more than I would in her situation. I would have put the SD and her out-of-wedlock spawn on the curb long ago. This woman is at the end of her rope and should purge her life of this young woman and her problems. Just as important as purging this useless BM from her life I would suggest that she also consider whether or not she wants to make a life with a "man" who has raised this useless excuse for skin.
Thank GOD for
Thank GOD for Echo--seriously...no parent or step parent "ALLOWS" their kid/skid to get pregnant. At some point, it is the choice of the kid/skid. This post has nothing to do with the unborn child. It is truly about a grown woman who has been pushed to the edge. It shouldn't be OP's problem that SO's adult kid chose to get knocked up and now needs OP's place to stay. I didn't even let my own BD live with me after age 20 and she was a single mom too!
I always teach both bios and skids that life is just FULL OF CHOICES. It's their call, but don't come trying to convince me that lack of planning on your part is now an emergency on my part.
Tough world out there.
Echo's advise is just what I
Echo's advise is just what I would of advised.
Sit them down, explain she has 3 months and stick to the plan. Ask every few days how her planning is going. Get her to realize this is going to happen and she needs to do right for her baby.
Perhaps if she is unable to care for her child, she should consider adoption.
What Echo said....every time.
What Echo said....every time.
If your spineless H won't do anything about it, tell her she has 30 to get out. Then change all of the locks on the last day.
It's always the SM's fault.
It's always the SM's fault. Always. We allow so many things. Who taught that kid to read words on the internet? SM must have allowed it.
I'm with Echo on this one -
I'm with Echo on this one - give her short notice and do it. If hubby doesn't like it, then he can move out with them.
Need advise with soon to be 19 stepdaughter
My SO and I have been together for 12 years and have a 5 year old together. He has a 19 year old and a 24 year old that is successfully married with a successful career. The 18 year old just had a baby and is currently living with her mom because when she got pregnant her mom took her to live with her. She had been living with us for the past 7 years. Doesn't want to work because she doesn't want to take the baby to daycare. never did any chores when she lived with us. The problem now is that she wants to come back to live with us and is always calling via facetime with a lot of drama saying that she and her mother can't get along. Her mom has a really nice room for her and the baby and has helped her with everything she and the baby needs. She feels entitled and doesn't do anything other than been in her room with the baby and doesn't lift a finger to contribute around the house. Im very stressed out everytime they have an argument. Last thing she did was punch her mom in the eye because she wasn't breastfeeding the baby and the mom threatened to call child services, she went insane and punched her mom repeatedly in one eye. Apparently she now has pospartum depression. Im scared that my SO will accept her back in the house. I believe she has to work it out with her mom. Her mom told her she needs to find work because she won't support her while she stays in her room all day doing nothing. She used to be the same way before having the baby. Just doing her acrylic nails and watching tv and no responsibilities around the house. Used to come out of the room when she was hungry. Her room would be full of dirty dishes under the bed. Water bill would be 100 dollars extra because she used to take 2 hours bath. I love the freedom I have right now a peaceful home finally the three of us without contant arguments. What shoul I tell my SO if he gives in to her manipulations and let her move back if her mom gets fed up with her? I'm even considering moving to a different place with my little daughter. I even wanted to have another child and my SO said no a year ago because he wanted to be child free and have a nice retirement. I feel that if he didn't want me to have another child why should He impose another child that's not mine to live in my house. I know how things will turn out. He will end up doing everything for the daughter. What is your advise to this situation? I accepted him with his daughters but I don't want to accept him now with his grandchild. I believe his daughter made an adult decision and she should be working toward her independence. It's not like she is homeless. She has a beatiful room with everything she needs at her moms but it's obsessed with coming back to us so her dad can continue to enable her behavior since he was very linient and her mom is asking her to find work. Thank you for reading ans dirry for thr long post