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OT- i'm so frustrated with my son right now...

Angel72's picture

He's started to revert back from his toilet training....specifically pooping! I've been nice about it for 3 weeks now....but today i just snapped...cause him first 2 times and explained to him we dont' poop in our pants..the third time he lays a big one. And what does my husband do to fix this??? THE F IDIOT SMOOSHED IT UP AGAINST HIM !!!!. I laughed and cried at the same time , screamed at him that i'm not showering him, i'm not cleaning him, your doing it!
then the idiot of wearing shoes in the house which he steps in a small poop and is smearing it all over the house which i have to mop up!
I have my monthly bill today, i'm starting a cold, my throat is sore! i have a headache! im pist off at my son right now for not going to the toilet when he knows he's suppose to go, he's almost 5 for crying out loud! and my husband is a complete boob! smooshing it up his butt....like yah thats' gonnna help!
theni lose my temper with my son and start screaming stupid kid after he purposely spills a cup of water next to the computer!!! last thing i need is for him to get electricuted!!!!! so i slam the door shut, clean the mess..and last on my husband opens the door and says' oh you dont need this closed eh?' my response, i'm pist off!, i've closed the door for a reason and it will stay closed. So i slam the door in his face! The f'n nerve of him!
I've been cleanign the house, cleanign out hte garage, still throwing out stuff from the previous stupid owner of the house and he took a nap while i was doing this. I'm pist off at him too...lazy sob. I'm the one sick, i'm the one fed up and i'm the one doing everything.
I just cannot understand my kid right now and i want to slap the f out of my husband.

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startingover2010's picture

wow, u sound like me with my bf. maybe its an immature guy thing but my bf does this to bd3 all the time, thinks its funny but it isnt.

seeing as how u flipped out, maybe your son is reverting back cause he feels uneasy about things going on at home. bd3 gets like that when sd11 starts her shit. everyone in the house gets riled up and panicky. so your son may be doing what he is doing cause of that.

hang in there. one day all of our stupid bf's/dh's/so's will drop off the face of the earth and we women can rule the world.

startingover2010's picture

u should also tell ur husband its very demeaning to smoosh your sons poop on him. it probably makes ur son feel real small and unwanted and unloved. maybe the next time u tke a poop, squish it in husbands face to see how he likes it.

buttercookie's picture

Wow what a day. Kids revert back to bad toilet habits for a few reasons. 1. something is bothering them and they don't know how to handle it (house stress can do it) 2. They are getting to busy on an activity and they need to be reminded to take potty brakes. 3. they aren't feeling well (stomach issues, flu etc.) My daughter did this when she was about this age. The first few times I cleaned it up. The last time I took her hands and she helped me rinse her undies out in the toilet. She was then told if she did it again she would be cleaning it herself. She never had another accident. I also had to watch her activities when we had a busy day and remind her to use the rest room when I saw what looked like it may be her getting ready to do it again. I'm not perfect yes I yelled at her and smooshed her once but she doesn't remember it and I never did it again. I still feel bad 13 + years later when I think about it but parents have bad days too and we aren't perfect. Don't be too hard on yourself. Sounds like you are having a horrible day.

PnutButta's picture

Congrats for calling your child stupid. Congrats on your husband for smearing his poop on his child too...real nice.

It's ok to be mad and upset, but not ok to treat a child that way. If you do this consistently, it might be why he's regressing and pooping his pants. Hell, I'd probably doody in my pants too if a woman, who outweighs me by probably 100 pounds (maybe more) screamed at me incessantly....regardless if she was my mother or not.

~ Please excuse me, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance... ~

misfit's picture

Wow PnutButta, kinda harsh there. I don't think the congratulations belong.

Sorry you're having a hard time, Angel. I read your post yet leave no advice because I haven't experienced this myself but it's cool that you'd share your story. I can see how your child's bathroom habits can really play on your nerves if they've already been potty trained and now they're back to diaper butts. I'd echo ButterCookie and say something must be stressing him out OR maybe he's constipated?

My SS has a lot of trouble taking poops because of his poor, low fiber diet (in my opinion, anyway). He ends up going through a very painful, and often forced, process of "poop time, let's go see the potty" rather than going himself. To show how badly he's backed up and that he needs to go NOW, he, while sitting down and playing on the couch, floor, etc AND without realizing, will move his butt up and down changing seats because the pressure is so bad. So that's something he does that's a little strange. We realize he's afraid to go to the bathroom because of the pain he experiences while constipated.

Anyway, I hope the rest of your weekend will flow a little better! Take it easy Smile

Angel72's picture

Actually it was the first time i snapped and the first time i yelled out stupid kid. But thanks for the unmost understanding Pnutbutta, I'm sure you make an excellent understanding person...lol..
I dont treat my child on an everyday basis like this and it was the first time my husband smooshed it. So we were having one bad day.
And yes my son actually has had a cold for the last 3 weeks, i have finally gottne some kind of fluish like cold..dont know but got massive headaches. And people just snap.
Thanks for the rest who were understanding and supportive.
Thanks buttercookie and misfit...i think you hit it onthe end.
There has been alot of change....new house, daycare in the last 2 weeks. And the colds are not helping.
Of course my husband making a poor decision like that doesn help but he did clean it up and showered him up.:)
The rest of the day was good, they both took a nap, i got to relax. And my son was just fine after that.
I'm glad i have this site to explode from time to time.

PnutButta's picture

A child being called "stupid" is not acceptable even once. I have no understanding for someone that is verbally abusive to a 4 year old.

I get migraines. I don't call my children or step children stupid. Snap on your husband all you want, he's an adult. Your child does not deserve to be treated worse than a dog.

I don't need to read your full post, I'm sure you have plenty of excuses for verbally attacking your family. If it's so easy to call your child stupid once, I'm sure it wasn't the first time and won't be last.

You, or anyone else, can think I'm "harsh" all they want. I call it as I see it...and I definitely see this one as unacceptable.

~ Please excuse me, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance... ~

misfit's picture

PnutButta, I'm not trying to start anything here but please, please with all due respect. Lay off.
Can you truly truly say you've never done or said something mean to your kid or skids!?!?!?

PnutButta's picture

No, I haven't. It's called maturity, patience, and knowing when to walk away....which is what I'm going to do now.

If you come on here and "vent", be prepared for the replies you receive. I refuse to grovel and kiss ass around here. If you don't like it, that's your problem.

~ Please excuse me, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance... ~

misfit's picture

I hate to pick fights and I truly suck at holding grudges but sometimes I just don't get people. Thanks Crystal! Love the anecdote!

Angel72's picture

Yup, she's really all high and mighty eh? Your perfect eh? ahha..not. Yes, to be ignored. One day her highchair will fall and she'll break herself, im sure with that attitude, no human being will have any sympathy for you.
Thanks crystal:) We are human, its called mistakes, not excuses. Get off the high horse. that will be the last comment for you and your stuck up nose up your ars.

PnutButta's picture

1. Please feel free to ignore me. Trust me when I tell you that it's not going to mess up my day. Hard to ignore someone when you're reading and responding to their posts though, isn't it? Biggrin

2. I'll take being called High and Mighty any day of the week for sticking up for a child. I don't believe in humiliating and degrading children because mommy and daddy "are having a bad day".

Whatever you need to tell yourself to justify that in your mind, feel free. I may have my nose in my ass, but my children are happy and mentally healthy.

~ Please excuse me, I have a low bullsh*t tolerance... ~