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Submitted by anbacc on Tue, 01/19/2010 - 12:19pm

So Im about sick of my SD11's lying and then she gets away with it. It's like im the only one who see's what she does. My DH is a back seat parent when it comes to SD. He never notices when SD is being rude or when she lies, but is real quick to punish my children. It causes a lot of fighting between us because eventually I get fed up and say something.

just need to vent

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Submitted by anbacc on Fri, 01/15/2010 - 12:02pm

DH and I started family therapy yesterday, which was advised to do by the court social worker. At first I didn't think we needed to go and that it was just for court, but after getting in there and hearing DH talk as is we have everything under control and things are getting better between us all, Im just like, wait a minute, Is he crazy. Yes I must admit things have been nice since SD11 came back from Xmas vacation but even I can see that there is still a lot of things that we need to work on. I get so tired of DH's positive personality.

update self centered BM

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Submitted by anbacc on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 2:40pm

So after church we went to pizza hut and SD11 ask DH why he was so sure she won't go live with BM. He says he not sure and that she doesn't need to worry about grown up issues. He ask her why she make it appear to BM that our home is so horrible. SD claim she don't and that BM just assumed it. DH then tells SD that she allows her mom to think that way because she doesn't tell her it's not true. SD says that she has tried to tell BM that SM not a bad person but BM doesn't want to hear it because she doesn't like SM. SD then claims she heard me yelling at BM and cursing on the phone.

waiting game

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Submitted by anbacc on Tue, 01/12/2010 - 1:57pm

So SD11 had her meeting with the court social worker yesterday and not really sure which way the courts are gonna lean toward. SD has in the past been caught lying about certain events and has lied to BM to gain sympathy from her, so I was a little unsure what would be said and if SD would tell the truth. Social worker spoke with SD for an hour and when SD came out she seemed in good spirits and began to share some the conversation with me.

self centered BM

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Submitted by anbacc on Fri, 01/08/2010 - 3:51pm

Ugghh, I swear everyday that goes by I am hating BM more and more. This morning I went in to my SD11 room to put her clothes away and decided to see what else her mother has been writing to her ( last blog on try or not try). Sure enough there was some things she should not be saying to her.

To try or not to try.. that is the question?

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Submitted by anbacc on Thu, 01/07/2010 - 12:37pm

Okay, so SD11 has been back from christmas break for 5 days and everything has been great with her and us. I was a little worried that she might come back with some negativity towards us since we are in the middle of her mother asking for the courts to change custody. The BM tends to overly involve SD in adult issues like court and actually thinks that SD will fully grasp what is happening. So I was well prepared for the comments of wanting to live with her mom, and her hating living with us..We have heard all this before after visits with BM.

update on wicked witch

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Submitted by anbacc on Tue, 01/05/2010 - 5:22pm

Hey everyone, an update on my last blog. So my H went to cali to pick up SD11 from BM since X-mas break was over. As I mentioned before we are in the middle of a court battle with this women because she decided she is ready to be a mother and wants to protect her daughter from me. BLAA BLAA! Its getting so old. Anyways, this women is so stupid, Last summer she refused to send SD back to us and used the excuse that she didn't want me to do the pickup in Cali. My sister lives by the airport and it would of made more sense for me to go and visit my sister than H taking time off of work.

wicked witch

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Submitted by anbacc on Sat, 01/02/2010 - 10:30pm

My husbands ex has done nothing but try to make our marriage and family fall apart. She has went out of her way to convince my 11 year old step daughter that I am a horrible person and It's a battle to maintain a positive relationship with her because of it. I am trying my best to build a bond with my SD and with every visit with her mother I feel like I have to start all over.