My 9 year old step daughter has been problematic since I became a part of this family. She has never accepted me fully. She still has fantasies that if I moved out her dad would move back in and everything would be perfect. Her parents broke up 2 years before I even met her mom. Her memories of life with dad are distorted. The truth is he works a lot of races cars for fun. He has very little time left over for anyone else including his daughters. We got her started in therapy last fall. It does not seem to be helping. Her therapist seems to think I'm to blame.