Reading everyone's notes is a bit scary to me. I know Meth is bad, and I know it ruins lives...but I guess it is just now hitting me how bad he could be.

I'm still sticking by my decision that if DH offers/asks for SS to move in with us, I'll tell him he's welcome to move out so SS can move in with him. I can't trust him in my home, and I especially don't want him around me or my daughter. I won't be forced to play nice with the little puke, and I don't want a recovering junkie in my home, EVER. He won't be welcome to visit here either. If DH wants to see him, he can meet him somewhere.

SS20 called his dad last night asking if he was going to be in court on Monday. I hate taking a day off work due to skids, but I have to be there to make sure DH doesn't offer to let SS move in with us or agree to be responsible for SS when he gets out. I can't protect myself if I don't go.

BM texted DH this morning saying SS is making her power of attorney. Good, let him move in with her then! Although I'm sure he won't, he hates his SF. SF is very mentally and verbally abusive to SS. Previous SF was physically abusive to SS when he was VERY little, but SS was allowed to use that as an excuse for his crappy attitude until I came along. BM never protected SS, and I'm sure that's part of why SS is where he is. He was allowed to be the victim, never made to go to counseling to deal with his past, and his feelings...hates the world. No one ever helped him to become a productive member of society, never taught him anything.

So back to the call. DH tells him yes he'll be there, DH tells me I don't have to be but I tell him this is affecting my life currently too, I'll be there. SS asked his dad about his laptop, DH tells him we didn't find a laptop when he cleaned his room. SS says his dirtbag "friend" must have taken it then. SS's roommate did say something about he thought someone had been in the apartment on Friday while he was at work, that's probably who I'd guess.

DH did talk to BM about the bike and she confirmed the story, she did help SS buy it from Walmart, so at least that's one less thing I have to worry about. DH was pretty pissed at me for assuming straight off that it was stolen but tough, I don't trust him, never have. And with drugs, anything is possible.

SS has some deluded ideas in his head that he'll be getting out before Monday. Uhm, you won't be going anywhere. You have a felony against you right now, you're staying right where you are, whether you like it or not. DH has talked to some friends of his that recently got out of jail (yes, he has great friends right) and they think the judge SS got will not be lenient just because it's his first offense. Meth charges are big time here right now they say. Good I say, throw the book at him, the biggest one they can! If he doesn't come clean (and stay clean), he's just going to go back to his same loser friends and start using again.

DH tried to contact SS's public defender again today. Secretary took all of DH's info, said the public defender was in the office, put him on hold...and then got transferred to her voicemail. I had told him that she likely wouldn't talk to him, since SS20 is an adult but he is adamant that he needs to talk to her. Needs to know what the cops have on SS, what she thinks is going to happen, etc. Poor DH, still trying to safe SS from the world.

I did tell DH that roommate said SS has been sleeping around, and should get tested for diseases...but I left out the "Sleeping with men" part, because I don't feel it's up to me to out him. That's something too personal, that only SS can decide when/if he feels comfortable telling his dad.

So far DH hasn't blamed the roommate for anything. He knows the roommate and knows this kid is a good kid. SS has confirmed a name that roommate told us as one of the "bad news bears" that SS has been running around with, and SS is sure that is who stole his laptop. I have no sympathy, he chose his friends after DH told him this summer that he needs to choose better friends. He made his choices, now he has to live with them!