deleted post because I wanted to delete it. Thanks for understanding.

It's hard enough to deal with a blended family situation if you like your SO's kids but if you dislike them, is it hopeless to think you can have a relationship with your SO? I'm not even talking about living together, I am talking about just being together?

Keeping the part of your life that involves kids out of a relationship feels like half a relationship, but maybe that is the only way you can be with someone who actually has kids from a previous marriage or relationship?

It seems like many of our men have been controlled by skids, BMs, their mothers...leaving us feeling frustrated. Since most of these men have so many people with their claws in them, we try not to become another person trying to get a piece of them. We don't use our power/control over them (well, I haven't) because we don't want to be like every other person in their life so we bite our tongue and get frustrated, feel taken for granted, etc.

I'll try to keep this as short as possible. You can read my other blogs for more info. Basically I met a wonderful, sweet, amazing man a little over three years ago. I'd been on my own for quite a while and he was just so good to me, nice, chemistry. I slowly fell in love with him. I thought he was divorced but he didn't explain that he'd actually been separated from BM for almost two years and felt that there wasn't really any difference and was afraid to tell me his divorce was not finalized. Of course, that was three months into the relationship and I was already in love with him.