My stepdaughter
Hi everyone,
My name is Alba & i am a young step mom to a 5year old girl. My bf & i have been dating for about 2 years on & off. You guessed it "on & off" bc of her.I don't hate the little monster. It just sucks bc i don't have children of my own & yet i feel forced to love this one. Like she is rude af. She hits her dad & not only at home. But in public too. It is emberresing & like alll kids she will cry till she has her way.
I have talked to my bf 7 have asked him to divide his time between us the best he can. Wht was his answer... "y don't u like her?" Dude u were right there! Lord hae mercy on my soul...Its beyond difficult to be content when she is around. I hate it. I don't like spending time w her. She is bossy & will get her way no matter what. Her dad & i berly have time for each other when she "wants to come back again". Ah f#(%!!!
Sorry u guys... but that little monster runs the show & gaw help us if something don't go her wawy. Litlle leach!!! I also want cudles & daddies love... But do i get any? Very limited. I did not sign up for this. No im not leaving him. My mind is made up. I love him regardles of his accient.... sorry not sorry...I'm just like "ok Ali, its just for a little bit". But i will get upset bc she don't want to come w us somewhere on the days we have her. And now no one can go out & no one can have fun... fml bro...
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The glorious truth of your
The glorious truth of your situation is that you are NOT a stepmother. You are only dating this guy.. and at an "on and off" basis at that.
It sounds like you are a nice young woman that wants to enjoy a child-free life. Not a thing wrong with that...but if that is what you want then your BF is not the right guy for you.
Because.. really.. even if he magically became the "world's best father" and started raising her to behave better and set reasonable expectations for her.. you wouldn't be happy. Because ALL kids have meltdowns.. ALL kids can be self-centered and can be brats. It doesn't sound like you have the temperament or patience for it.
It's fine if you don't love his kid, but it also would be best for him to be free to find a partner that might be more accepting of his responsibility and his child.
You need to get out before you find yourself pregnant and "trapped" in a situation you find intolerable.
Sounds like your BF is a
Sounds like your BF is a lousy father, that's the real issue. Why does he allow this behavior?
Yeah i know people with kids like this and rest of family are
Staring while kids have been out of control for ages and mummy daddy doesn’t give a stuff till a family member tells their kid off for screaming at their pets or smacking their toddlers... kids don’t just magically snap out of this brhaviour so if you have a toddler screaming on shopping mall floor because she didn’t get her way, that aint normal op
You've been on and off
You've been on and off because of his daughter and she's not going away. I don't think this relationship is for you.
At the beginning of my
At the beginning of my relationship with my husband I only saw him when he didn't have his daughter that's when I fell in love with him. He was a bait and switch because he treated me like gold when it was just the two of us. Once he had me then he started expecting me to tag along for all of the activities with his daughter. He did nothing to girl the relationship between us it was just expected that we would love each other just as much as he loves each of us. We didn't, don't and probably never will. if I could go back I would tell myself not to even go on that first date with him. I love my husband he's a sweetheart and a great dude but I wish I hadn't fallen in love with him because I hate being a stepmom too.
Darlin' don't spend another
Darlin' don't spend another two years of your life with a man that doesn't know or care to parent. You don't have any children and you're here getting frustrated over his. This child isn't going anywhere and your BF doesn't seem to want to change any of the awful behavior.
So you have two choices: 1-either you stay and put up with the bullsh!t and accept that this will be your life or 2- you leave this dysfunction and this Gremlin of a child and live your best life.
It really is that simple and of course you may say how much you love him but sweety....aint that much love in the world if you have to deal with all that mess.