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OT - RANT!

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Let me preface this by saying this is going to be a total bitch rant but that’s the mood I’m in.

Let’s start at the beginning which would be last Friday, BS got his own place and we were helping him move in.  It was a stressful day as my BS was having some physical issues (he has been so stressed he’s angered his TMJ) so he was crabby and out of sorts.  DH and I made sure everything was covered and tried to make things very stress free for him.  We spent the day moving his stuff and getting him settled. 

Update on DH and I (Yep I'm blog hogging today)

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He contacted some counselors yesterday and has a plan going forward of how he wants to finally be a part of this marriage.  I asked him why now it was important and not our entire marriage?  Is it because I’m looking at attorney’s, is it because he will lose the house, is it because he will lose a maid and cook, is it because I will take half his retirement, is it because the kids will probably resent him?  It really just boggles my mind that he thinks after all this time, now is the time to suddenly step up and be a husband.  Not because he loves me and wants to fight for me, but because h

Get the Popcorn its Show Time

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Well the great dinner date has come and gone (they went dutch) and using my great sleuthing skills I have deducted that Spawns whole reason for wanting to meet with DH to “hash things out” all boils down to she wants to get her hooks in BD17!

She was the one who dropped off the flowers and didn’t sign the card because she just knew we would throw them out if we knew it was from her (eye roll).  She thinks of BD17 all the time (stalker), and now that BD17 is an “auntie” she would really like to reconnect with her.

Update to the Stupid Update.

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Another update and I will try to stay on topic but I am so emotional right now it’s hard.  DH and I do not have a marriage, we haven’t in a long time largely because I quit trying when I realized he could care less.  His priorities are work, extracurriculars, work buddies, co-workers (not buddies), friends, our kids, the dog, his family, my family, and somewhere way down there I might be in there.  I stopped putting in any effort into our marriage and it has pretty much just been drifting since then, possibly a year or so.

Me:  So, are you getting together with Spawn tomorrow?

UPDATE_Here we go…AGAIN!

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**UPDATE** DH told me he and Spawn are working on meeting tomorrow night.  I asked if it was for dinner and he said he didn’t know.  Instantly my hackles went up and I had to remember to keep my game face on.  I just asked him to let me know so I could know what to plan for dinner.  He said he hopes they can hash everything out and hopefully start from there.  I was just like well I hope it works out for you. 

So yesterday morning as I’m prepping food for the week and minding my own business this conversation ensues between DH and me.

Update to Days of Our Lives

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DH and I had a chance to talk about what had happened and wouldn’t you know…he begins defending Spawn.  First he starts off with “Well when you put stuff on social media you should expect that you will get blowback.”  In regards to CFD calling out Meth Mouth and Spawn defending her.  I was like no you don’t just call somebody a c@nt like that Spawn got down and dirty really quick.  So I tell DH it was just validating because this is the true nature of his Spawn, he pulls a face and goes “I’ve never seen this side of her.”  I was like yeah you have many times, but y

Spawns Baby Shower

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Spawn had her baby shower and posted about it on social media, interesting to see that she made sure to comment “only got a handful of pictures”…and then the ONLY photos she posted are of her, Meth Mouth, Half-Sibling, and ex Step-Father.  None of her with baby daddy, or with her “daughters” (SDs), or with any of baby daddies family, GrandHag or their friends.  It was so obvious this was done intentionally in the hopes that somehow DH would see it.    I know that Spawn and Meth Mouth have been on the outs for a while, but it appears they have repaired that relationship just in time for Meth

OT - Mystery

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Thinking about reaching out to Scooby and the gang because it appears there is a mystery afoot.  We took BD17 on a trip for her birthday and were gone for several days.  BS22 still lives with us but he works full time so is not home during the day.  My parents were checking in on our very emotionally needy canine when a package was found left on our outdoor furniture.   We have a camera that is by the front door but is only activated if a person walks up to the front door.  This package was strategically left further down the path so that the camera would not be activated.  It was a very fl

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