well, u all know what i think of the new laws here, they suck and are very unfair... but now we need to force the bm to do her tax as what hubby pays has to be equal to her wage before they start taking , at the moment they are going on her pension income from last year and we no damn well, shes been workn all year.... Sooner or later she will have to do it as she will want her return but till then they will want blood out of a stone from us...
so i say to hubby call her bluff, ring her for a agreement for the younger one who hasnt spoken to him for 7 yrs.. and get an agreement if she wont agree( which she wont) tell her we want to start visitation rights again then. It will so scare her because she already stuffed up the relationship with the older one so she will be terrified of losing all control. But this right will do have , and i have had enough. It will be hard if she happens to come but some how with all of your widsom and support i'll get through it. sd is 13 havent seen or heard from her in 7 ears as i said. From all the lies the bm filled with !

The councellor is organising a session for hubby and sd 15 on friday, lets see how this goes because hubby is going to let it all out. If he sees she really not inerested or attitude hes going to make sure its for closure. I'm trying to tell him dont shut her out, but hes had enough and said the last time he tried she was too much like bm and he wont go down that road with his own daughter... the poor guy i remeber how burnt he was when i meet him and all the insecurites he had after we got together, it took him at least 2 years or so before he told me he loved me. we have been together for 12 years at the end of sep, married for 10 in may, i want renew our vowels but i dont think he does... oh well...
the sd still hasnt replyed to my email so i guess shes not interested.:(