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Stirring up my own trauma history

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Submitted by Mommy_Dearest on Sat, 07/24/2010 - 12:39pm

I am a therapist - so I know what is happening. But I feel powerless over it. My own childhood was less than pleasant, not Children's Services involement abusive, but that "self-esteem distroying" kind of childhood. I have raised my own boys successfully, and they are healthy, pretty much well adjusted young men. Now I am starting over with a little girl - and my own crap is getting triggered all over the place.

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Submitted by Mommy_Dearest on Sat, 07/24/2010 - 12:32pm

I didn't get into this step-parenting role very gracefully. There was a lot of secrecy in the beginning, which probably didn't help the relationship with Baby-Mama (BM). But, now its been 4 years into the relationship - 1 of us living together and the issues haven't changed. BM and I have yet to even have a conversation. I don't pick up the kid. I don't answer the door when BM arrives to pick her up. Baby-Daddy (BD) is away for two weeks and the Grandmother is going to pick her up to bring her over. This is partly my fault, I don't want to deal with the drama.