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Binging on Junk Food

So this morning, I went up to SD10's room to make sure she had made her bed as DH had already left for work. I went to throw something away and noticed a huge amount of wrappers. They happened to be honey bun wrappers. There were a total of 12 of them. She has only had acess to them after school when we are not home and only since Tuesday. 12 in 2 days!!!!! Normally she would not be home alone but her grandfather is in the hospital so she has been home for exactly 1 hour for 2 days. Does anyone have suggestions for how we are to deal with this situation?

And so the saga continues....

Since my last blog entry about BM asking child support services for a review, she has been notified of any changes to the child support order and in turn filed a Motion against DH stating that the "medical insurance is not reasonable".:jawdrop: We have talked with our lawyer about this and he states that it must have increased for her to cause a pain over it and no judge will grant her motion.

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A New Year..Even more Frustrations

So I decided that for the New Year, I would take a new approach and start fresh with BM...this lasted all of two weeks. Here is why.

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Losing Patience

I am losing patience with SD10. There are many things going on in my life and feel that I am being pulled in a million directions. For one, I am working full time and going to school full time. This requires me to lock myself in the bedroom for countless hours to study. All I ask is that things run normally througout the house when this happens so I dont feel like I have to take control on top of everything else.

Constant FB issue

So DH and I felt that since we dont have a home phone and we only rely on our cell phone (which SD10 does not have) we would give her an outlet to talk with her friends by allowing her to have a FB acount which we would in turn monitor. For some of you who know our situation, you may know that BM used to call SD10 every other week but abrupty stopped calling and made up an excuse she told SD10. ( We have primary custody and BM sees her every other weekend) So BM found out SD10 has a FB page and set up a new account (aside from the current one she already had) to communicate with SD10.

How Do I Respond?

After SD9 has been with her BM for most of the last 3 weeks, she has come home and asked that I attempt to become friendly with her Bm as her BM has requested that she would love for this to happen. So I told SD9, I will attempt but cannot make any guarentees that this will transpire. SD9 also states she wanted to once again play soccer but of course, BM has to agree to this as well as games are on some saturdays that she has SD9 (BM has her every other weekend, we have primary custody) Here is the email that I sent.

Hi BM,

What to Do?

In summary, DH and my relationship is as follows:

Stop being childish

At the beginning of summer, DH and I decided to pull SD9 out of daycare and have her grandmother watch her for financial purposes. We informed BM that we were doing this and let her know that I would be getting off her Fridays with SD9 at 1 and if she would like to pick her up earlier than the scheduled 6pm time she could do so with a simple phone call on Thursday nights letting us know what time.

Combating a delusion

For some time now my SD9 has thought that her BM does not wrong and that at a magical age she can "decide" to go live with her. Recently DH has decided to let her read all the emails that are sent and the nasty, rude responses that are sent back from BM. The latest event happened this morning. DH sent an email letting BK know that sending SD9 home with soiled clothes (as she still wets herself) was unacceptable as this very rarely happens at our house and if she could please buy her clothes for the 4 days she is with her a month.

Am I wrong??

So a little of our situation is I am a soon to be stepmother to a 9 yr old girl. Her father has primary custody and her mom (who is BiPolar) only sees her every other weekend.

Recently, BM called DH to let him know that she had other plan on an upcoming weekend that she has SD and could not change her plans to accomodate her. On this weekend, she called multiple times to talk with SD but we were all busy and she was off playing with friends. She finally was able to speak with her once.

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