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NPC/EOW= Part time parent

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Sat, 07/27/2024 - 6:42pm

I used to get so frustrated that by bio mom never does anything for her child except a small amount of child support. Now I do not care. I understand technically you don’t have to take the child you created as a ncp but, you should! I can’t imagine how bad I would feel it if I heard my mom say I don’t have to take her. It’s even worse that she lives with her man and his kids. I would never parent someone else’s better than my own! 

BIL Update

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Mon, 08/02/2021 - 2:25pm

So me and my husband talked to his brother and he let us know that his fiancé’s kids are more than a handful and she doesn’t do enough to correct it. Not only that she gets mad if he says anything. So he’s completely hands off. They are her problem and he’s not talking them anywhere. She can handle them herself. If she can’t control them and won’t let him why would he keep trying? 

Bil step drama

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Mon, 07/12/2021 - 11:14am

So I’ve already talked about my bil and his now fiancé. My bil’s wife died in a car accident when they boys were young so it was just the 3 of them for some time. Everyone in the family stepped up to help including the boys maternal family. Their grandmother takes them every other weekend and spends time with them over the summer. They are very involved. 

Saying NO

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Wed, 06/02/2021 - 9:35am

So my Bil lives next door to us. Everyday after school his two boys come over until he gets home from work. They are 12, 14 and very good boys. My bill has them full time and we’ve been helping with them for years. I work from home but when they come over they entertain both my daughters. (1 bio, 1 step) while I work, clean, cook. I don’t even have to ask then to do homework. We have a very good routine. 

Gifts from my mom

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Fri, 06/26/2020 - 12:56pm

I have to explain a little first. I have a 10 year old step daughter and a daughter on the way. Bio mom has one kid older than my SD and two younger ones with her long time boyfriend. The bf has 3 other kids that are not bio moms.  We have full custody of my SD. She almost never stays at her moms because is chaotic and she hates it. We don't blame her too many bad ass kids not enough space.

Need advice (long)

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Submitted by JustMe20 on Sun, 06/14/2020 - 1:42pm

I'm new here. My question isn't about my step kid who is great. It's about my dad I have no relationship with and his wife. My dad was in and out of my life. He was on drugs and a drinker. I always hoped my dad would get it together and love me but it never happened. He disappeared when I was about 11 and didn't show back up until I was 17. I stopped longing for him when I grew closer to my step dad. He showed me what a dad was and what I should look for in a husband. I pushed him away at first but he was always there. So was his family.