I was just 19 when I married my husband and we are approaching our one year anniversary and I am not where I want to be. My husband is a package deal. His daughter was 3 when I met her and she is almost 5. When I first met her, we instantly clicked. She would call me her sister but my husband quickly nipped it in the bud, because he wanted her to see me as her mom and not a friend or a sister. I understood his point and decided that I create motherly boundaries. My husband would tell me that he regretted having a child at only 19 and that he didn't like the woman he had her with.