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Is it worth it to try and switch schools?

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So, we want to change SD's school. She's in 2nd grade now. There are a lot of issues that we have with her current school, 1. BM doesn't even live in that school's area. 2. BM moves at least 1 time a year on average 3. SD has NO friends. Wouldn't you think it's normal to have friends to play with in the neighborhood and attend school with at 8?

Need Advice on a BM Issue

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Just to review, we won 50% custody of SD late last year. Since then there have been no issues with SD. She never asks to go to her mom, never says she misses her or needs to see her. She also is happy to go to her at the end of the week, and happy to come back to us the next week.

Am I acting different because I don't have Bios?

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Maybe I’m just crazy, or going crazy. I feel like I’m losing my mind lately. DH and I got into a huge argument. I said I felt very segregated and disincluded from what communication DH has with BM. Ok, it’s regarding SD, but I still just feel that I need 100% transparancy. Maybe that sounds psycho, that I want to know about every word BM says to DH, but it’s not out of being hateful. I just want to be included.

The Olive Branch is Dead Unfortunately

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So I extended the Olive Branch. Organized and helped SD make a mothers day present that was thoughtful and caring. BM knows I did so and told SD she LOVED it. So i thought, cool, maybe this can be the new chapter.

Recently there was a school play and I attended with DH. BM was there, and pretended like I wasn't, she just ignored me and refused to look at me or DH. Even the rest of her family was very cold to DH even though he said a warm and friendly "hello".

That's where my MOMMY and DADDY got married!!! YAY!

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I am SO SICK to death of this and I'm wondering if anyone else out there can relate.

Everytime a location in the state we live (which is a vaction and popular wedding place) comes up in any way, shape, or form, SD HAS to declare it's where MOMMY AND DADDY GOT MARRIED!!!! It is really, really starting to drive me up the wall.

10 Stepmonster Myths We Need to Bust Now

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I found this article while poking around the internet for help on extending the olive branch. (Yes, I am still working on it. It may have to wait until mothers day.)

I found this very interesting. If you have ever read "Stepmonster" Then it's really encapsulating those thoughts in a short article. But here it is if you are interested!

http://www.womanaroundtown.com/relating-around/10-stepmonster-myths-we-n...

Does anyone feel like their DH/SO doesn't know how to fight like an adult?

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Maybe it's because he's used to dealing with immature and childish women that don't fight like a grownup either, but we have been together longer than DH was with BM as a whole, and he still doesn't fight fair most of the time.

I don't tolerate name calling, so he doesn't do that anymore like he did initially. But it seems like he HAS to generalize and make blanket statements about me and my character rather than the issue at hand. "You ALWAYS do ABC." "You NEVER do ABC." Really???

Anyone else feel like they are arguing with a spoiled teenager rather than a grown man????

Would you or have you extended the Olive Branch to BM?

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So it's been on my mind lately. I want the conflict to end. I want the pettiness to end. I don't want BM hating me and being so vapid in her remarks and actions. She is too proud to ever extend a hand, but I don't think she'd take an act of peace from me. I want to beleive she is human, and feels like she wants to overcome the negativity and hatred, but I could be wrong.

Has anyone made the first peace offering to BM? If so how did you do it, and did it work? If not, would you consider doing it and how would you?

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