Hello, everyone. As some of you know, I have an almost 2-year-old toddler with DH and one on the way (currently in 3rd trimester). Skid will be here next month for his winter holiday visitation and as my toddler gets older I worry about skid's influence on him and on the new baby when they are old enough to understand and interact more. Last summer, I caught SS9 being aggressive with DS who was only 8 months at the time (when I was momentarily in the other room and he thought I wouldn't hear him/catch him).

Mother's Day is coming up and I wanted to see how many of you get any kind of acknowledgement from the skids, either on Mother's Day or Stepmother's Day the following Sunday (which I think is a poor man's version of Mother's Day, but whatever). I've never heard a peep from skid when we lived in his town or now, though I never expected that he would say anything or that BM or DH would encourage it.

Another question: how many of your DH's recognize BM on Mother's Day, either on their own or with the skids encouragement? How does that make you feel if he does? 

I read an article tonight: http://www.scarymommy.com/love-stepchildren-as-my-own/

It’s just one of those nights when I’m feeling depressed and overwhelmed about being a second wife with a SS9 and bm that will be in my life for a majority of it. I didn’t think it would be so hard and, for me, such a mind f*ck. I’m in therapy to help deal with these feelings, but I don’t think I’m as strong as some of you ladies here. I resent my husband sometimes. My relationship with my in laws, which I was looking forward to before we got married is nonexistent because of their allegiance to bm. I wish I could say eff em but I still find it hurtful.