1.I am having my first child but I have an 8 year old step-daughter, when should she come in to meet her baby brother? We want her included in as much as we can but some things will be a little private at first (ex: breastfeeding)

2. 8 year old step-daughters birthday is a few days after due date. Has anyone else been in this predicament? Should we have a celebration early?

My due date is the day after Thanksgiving. Step-daughters birthday is Dec. 5

thank you!