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BF needs a backbone

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Last night I come home from my workout and BF and the girls are home. I barely get in the door when the 10 year old informs me BM had a 'private talk' with her. BM tells her she is not allowed to have any of her 'private talks' with me or she will no longer be able to go to her Dad's house. Her private talks are normal kid stuff...Jack at school doesn't like me...it hurts when I pee ( she has a hygiene issue )...So naturally all 4 kids ignored me all evening.

A concern?

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So with deer hunting season coming up BF is going this opening weekend and won't have the kids. He asked to have them an additional night this week. BM says..."it's fine with me but I don't know what the kids want"...Right now they are ages 4 thru 10.

Shouldn't the adults be working this out? Is this type of behavior going to cause future issues? How does this get nipped in the bud if it could cause future issues?

What??? Who does this?

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So SD10 has a bed wetting problem she is working on and has made wonderful progress. At our house she does NOT wear a pull up at night and is doing great! We tell her how proud we are of her and continue the good work. At BM house she wears a pull up at night and wets every times. She is told she is lazy and just won't get up to use the bathroom. I understand the frustration and cleaning bedding as we went through that but I am convinced it is a matter of 'training the brain' and if she is wearing a pull up it won't change. Now for the infuriating part!

Is it any of my business???

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So I am wondering if this is any of my business. I've been living with BF for two years now. His work schedule is about to change so therefore skids schedule will change as well. He has not discussed this with me. Is it any of my business? I think it is as it affects my life as well but he doesn't discuss this with me.