Is this being abit childish?
My SD is the most hateful child I have ever met. She never has anything nice to say to me. All of us dread when she is coming, even DH, and especially the other kids.She is always "forgetting" stuff at our house and I have to go downstairs and search for it and then DH has to take it to her. I think this is a game, it's always something sooo important that it can't wait, I think she just likes to make him jump to do things for her. DH is in a wheelchair and can't get downstairs so I'm the one that has to find it for him.
Here's my question, yesterday she called and she needs her sneakers, they've been here for 3 or more months now. I know exactly where they are but I told DH I couldn't find them. I said I'd take a better look today. Should I just say she'll have to find them when she comes on Friday? This will save him from having to run them to her, she's here in 2 days anyway. I have tried to disengage but it's difficult when DH can't get downstairs to do the laundry or retrieve her "lost" items.
I need help with this one, please.
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Absolutely do NOT keep
Absolutely do NOT keep jumping to her whims. You don't say how old she is so a lil hard to gauge just how much or why the game but sounds like she is trying to reassure herself that she comes first in daddy's life. It's understandable and typical for a child to behave that way but continuing to accomodate her forgetfullness will only allow it to continue. I could see if it was homework but otherwise she has to pay the consequences to get the idea. Hang in there!!! Set your foot down and be firm but calm. I would definately together sit her down and inform her calmly and rationally that from this point forward she needs to be more responsible because if she forgets something it will stay there until she comes to visit again unless it is of necessary importance such as homework and even then it will be debatable. She'll get mad which she is entitled to be but .... i'm sure you get the gest. Good luck!!!
Opps, sorry I should have
Opps, sorry I should have mentioned that she's almost 12. Thanks for the advice, everyone. I feel really taken advantage of and I just didn't want to "find" them for her, so I won't.