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AT THE END OF MY ROPE WITH BM!!!!!

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Submitted by dani1 on Thu, 11/06/2008 - 3:52pm

Don't know where to start. Do any of you ever feel like being a step-parent is having obligations (financial and otherwise) with no rights! BM calls the shots with schedules, $, and now even discipline in our home.

SS tells his mom how DH disciplines him and BM calls to rant and rave. The next week, she is calling to say she cannot handle SS and he needs to live with us. She is not employed, remarried and is a stay at home mother. DH pays CS, all medical insurance and she recently asked to have more of a 50/50 schedule while wanting to keep the CS as is.

schedule change, CS change? Help, Need advice....

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Submitted by dani1 on Wed, 08/13/2008 - 12:44pm

I need some helf from my fellow sm's. We used to have EOW and every Sunday and now because BM and her family are struggling financially (welcome to our world) she wants to change the schedule to almost 50/50 and still receive the CS she currently receives. Mind you she has not been working since she had a baby with new husb. I am so upset that DH thinks that all this is ok. We struggle financially, we are scrimping every penny so that we may be able to buy a home of our own or even dream to have a child.

Slipping into Depression...

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Submitted by dani1 on Thu, 08/07/2008 - 7:24pm

I was wondering if any of you felt feelings of depression when you first became stepparents. Dh and I have only been married 9 mos and although I love him so much, it just seems like as stepmoms we face obstacle after obstacle. I don't have any close female friends that are stepmoms. What makes it more difficult for me is that I have always wanted to be a mother and I have no bio children of my own. We struggle financially because of the CS payments to BM (who by the way no longer works) she recently remarried. As soon as her baby was born, she became a stay at home mom.

Hoping I'm not evil and crazy...

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Submitted by dani1 on Wed, 08/06/2008 - 8:39pm

I am fairly new to this site and I am so grateful to read all of your posts and know that I am not alone in this walk of being a stepmother. We have my stepkids every other weekend and when they are with us, BM insists on calling every night. Even when we pick them up on a Friday, she'll call 2 hrs later to "say good night". I feel bad for the fact that this just erks me to no end. I myself was a stepchild and neither of my parents did that. To make things further annoying, she calls my husbands cell phone and she is now one of his 5 favs on the cell. Am I just being evil?

New to all of this....

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Submitted by dani1 on Fri, 07/18/2008 - 8:59pm

Hi everyone, I am a new Stepmom to two boys. It is so nice to read all of your stories and finally come to a place where I know it's "not just me". I have been feeling very depressed lately. I thought something was wrong with me. I feel comforted knowing I am not alone. I am curious to know if there is anyone out there who is a stepmom but has no bio children of their own. I am dealing with infertility and on top of this new world I am in, it just feels very overwhelming.