Had a breakthrough last week with future DH. Lot's of talk about our future, my feelings of frustration and resentment, and how we can arrange for equity in our household. Initially I was accuse of "wanting my cake and eating, too." as I outlined what I thought was a good plan to eliminate some of the responsibiity of the Skid's from me to DH and BM. Today, howver, I got a nice surprise. "You were right, honey, all we need is a break every once in awhile." I guess all the drama last week was worth it, if DH can now see that he doesn't have to be "super dad" for his kids to love him. Thank goodness for ST. Reading all the posts and getting some in sight into these situations has truly helped me understand myself, BM, DH, and Skid's. What an interesting and unique phenomenon SParenting is!!!!