to accept somebody else's children and step up to the place another man left on the table...Ray Johnson"

One of my friends posted the above saying on her facebook wall. This will probably come back and bite me on the ass, I probably should have left it alone, but I didn't; I replied "However, when you change "man" to "woman" it's a lot more difficult"...

I’ve reached the point of no return and want/need to get out of this marriage. Since this is my first marriage, I’ve obviously never been through a divorce so I have no idea where to even begin. My main concern is that I don’t lose everything I’ve worked for all my life especially since DH came into this marriage with nothing but the clothes on his back (and two whiney ass girls!).

Here’s some of the highlights of my concerns:

Sunday afternoon I wasn’t feeling great so I told DH I was going to take a quick nap before we were to meet some friends at the local pub for a Superbowl party. DH’s phone started ringing and didn’t stop – SD19 called 3 times in the course of one hour. I couldn’t help but hear parts of his conversation and knew something was up when I heard him tell her I was lying down but he’d ask when I got up. I knew if he was going to tell me about her calling it required money because he never mentions when either skid calls unless they want something.

Nope, not the skids who uttered that phrase to me, but my DH.
I'm still so stunned by his revelation, I can barely breathe. I've cried so much I don't know how I have any tears left inside.