Like so many other comments I've read on this website, I too am extatic to find that not only am I not alone, I am not a monster. I am "common law married" to a man I have been in a relationship with for the past six years. He was married before and has no desire to do it again. Being the free spirit he is, he always thought marriage was unnecessary, and after his ex-wife burned him (badly), his suspisions were confirmed. Me? I'm indifferent. I don't have to be married, I just want a child of my own, because, let's face it, being the "stepmonster" is just not the same.