Things have been a struggle lately. I just learned that my mom is getting married at the end of this year. That's not the big problem with this situation. It's more the fact that she is getting married 800 miles away. This not only makes things hard for us but me specifically. I am having a really hard time with the expectation of travelling that far with my family, paying for travel, food lodging, etc. And on top of that SD16 wants to come. I don't want for her to come. Every time she does anything with my family, it always turns out bad.

So, SD16 texts me this morning shortly after I get to work.

SD: Are you working?
Me: Yes.
SD: Until When? My windshield wipers need to be changed and Step Daddy (not his real name) has new ones for my car and I couldn't see anything when I was driving and I don't want to drive home like that so I was going to drop if off at moms for the weekend after school but I get out at 11 and I wondered if you could pick me up.

I did not pick her up.

Disengaged, as much as I can be but DH still doesn't realise that him treating SD16 as "poor baby" is not helping. As a matter of fact, she's using it to her advantage.

So Friday night BM calls saying that she's not sure what SD16 told us about who she was going to hang out with. BM and her husband came home from camping due to him getting called into work. When they got there, they see SD16 running out of the house and find a boy in her room. This boy said that he was just there to pick something up and that SD16 was at her dad's (our house). BM catches SD16 and gets her to come back to the house. DH tells BM that SD16 was supposed to be camping with BM that night and over the weekend.