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Step-kids and school

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We are in the process of filling out forms for SS11's high school. One of the forms has asked for 3 emergency contacts apart from DH and BM.  So who should these 3 contacts be?  In addition to the grandparents, my DH and I would like to put my name down, but not sure how this would be viewed in the eyes of BM. 

Should step parents be included on co-parenting apps?

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We are trialling out a co-parenting app as an official line of communication. It means that we can have shared calendars, messages can't be deleted and we can keep a record of call logs to the kids. The co-parenting app has an option of including third parties such as grandparents and step parents so that everyone is on the same page with matters to do with the kids. 
 

Is it a good idea to be part of this co-parenting app or is it best for it to be kept just between the bio parents? 

 

Advice needed please

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DH has emailed BM requesting contact days that he is able to do during the Easter holidays. She has responded back stating that she needs to know additional information before agreeing to the days that have been requested. She has specifically asked "where will both children (11 and 7) be sleeping? (location? own rooms? shared bed?)"

Does DH have to provide this information if he has parental responsibility?

bio parent contact during the other parent’s time with kids

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Has any bio parent needed to make contact with BM/BD during their visitarion time - particulalry at the start and end, in order to coordinate pick up/drop-pffs? What typically happens during changeover?  I just want to know how interaction can be avoided. I suppose it can be difficult if either parent is running late for pick up/drop off for any reason. If this happens they would need to make the other parent aware.

What is effective co-parenting and how do you go about it?

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 A continuation from my last blog, I need some help as I am very new to all of this. I have only recently become a SM to 2 very young boys. I am still trying to find my feet with this as I haven't quite decided how much I woudl like to engage with my SC in their day to day life - although I am currently interacting with them frequently and we do get along. I have also made it very clear to DH about my other boundary - under NO circumstance do I wish to interact with BM. I just can't being myself to doing this for my own mental health.