Hi everyone.  I'll try to keep this as short as possible, because this situation spans over three years.  My husband and I have been married for seven years.  He has a teenaged stepson.  My husband and his ex-wife split up 13 years ago.  She is on Husband Number 3.  So my stepson began having a lot of behavioral problems several years ago, and eventually he was diagnosed with ODD and ADHD.  For some weird reason, my husband was reluctant to put him in therapy (!), but that's another story.