My DH and I are both professionals and make decent salaries, and over time I've been the majority breadwinner and supported the home when DH was struggling with child support court cases. DH is 22 years older than me and oldest SS is 10 years younger than me. 
 

We are now earning enough to plan around tax and asset investments and given a never ending saga with the older SS, who firmly believes the world owes him a living and he plans to "inherit" and be "rich" from his father, the topic of wills came up.