I have a 15 yr old SD who lives with me and her father because her mother is bipolar. My SD has been using her cel phone and the computer to get young men to drive over to the house so she can sneak off with them and have sex. She has been doing this for 2 years. Yes it started when she was 13 yrs old. The bad behavour stops when her father takes the phone and internet away from her for very short periods of time. When she gets them back she is right back at it again.
The problem is, last weekend she invited a girlfriend for a sleepover and when I woke up at about 10pm that night to get something to eat; I noticed her friend was watching TV by herself. I went looking for her and found her and a 17 year old boy having sex in her room. Her father felt that taking her cel phone away for 2 weeks was punishment enough and gave the cel phone back to her.

I told him that I didn't want her to have use of the cel phone or the computer after 8pm because I don't want to wake up one night and find that some stranger she found on the internet wanted more than just her and ends up killing us or taking our things.

My husband is very lazy about his child she has no chores and never picks up after herself or cleans her room. Her room smells so bad sometime I have to go in and clean it. I have a cleaning service and they told me they didn't want to go in there anymore because they find things that are not exceptable.

My husband has MS and can not pick up after her eather, if it gets done I am the one to do it.

And yes the BM has every other weekend to make things worse, and she does. She has been so bad that I have a restraining order.

Any thoughts from others would be great.