To start out with, we got about 2 feet of snow Sunday. I have spent about 12 hours and 16 gallons of gas commuting to and from work so far. So I am already in a bad mood.
Second, SO has not been to work all week this week. He has "nothing" to do. This comes without warning, just in time for Christmas. He usually has work laid out, or a general plan of what he has going on, a month in advance. So he actually must have run out of work 3 weeks ago, and never said anything. I have already budgeted out what I am spending for gifts, I am pretty much done shopping and wrapping. I have enough money for MY share of the bills, and in anticipation of my "bonus" and tax return funds, I have begun planning what repairs I can make to my vehicles, what things I can fix around the house, and what items I can buy that we need. And now I find out that my whole plan might need to go in the trash? Because of HIS crappy planning?
I get that his trade gets "slow" during the winter, he knows it, I know it. He has NO savings put away for this time of year, so when his money is gone, it's gone, unless he comes up with work. He cannot file for unemployment because he is self-employed. Last year the only way we made it through was because he spent half the money that was supposed to go into a trust fund to pay my lawyer, and didn't tell me til months later. Now guess who owes her attorney for all of that money, plus or minus a few $100?
He has not even bought a single gift for SD8 either, so I am going to be really unhappy when he tries to get me to pay for her gifts. I mean, we are NOT talking about a household where I am the breadwinner and he is a lazy couch potato that needs me to pay his bills. He makes almost triple what I earn per hour (before taxes), and has the ability to budget his money so that he can have a little for the slow season. I am sick of doing the financial hokey-pokey with him every winter. He is gonna be screwed, and I am gonna be screwed it he doesn't scrape some work together. He has no more trust-fund $ or unemployment to use so anything he can't pay will fall on my lap, and I sure as hell cannot afford to provide for a family of 5 people making what I make.
He may not know this yet, but he REALLY doesn't want me to be (attempting to) paying all the bills. Because I will become a snarky, bitchy nightmare. There is no way in hell that I will give up everything that I have and that he is still gonna be smoking cigs, drinking 2 energy drinks a day, and driving to the ends of the earth to pick up his kid from BM every sunday evening. Ugh, the thought of what could happen just makes me ill.