I Love My Husband - Or, About Us
Since I already ranted about BM, I figured I would sketch out the background of the story.
DH and I met online (shocking, I know 
) not really looking for anything. Heck, we were both playing the field. Of course, the best-laid plans.... We got married for completely the wrong reasons, *very* quickly. At that point, I had only met SD once; a friendly meal for DH, SD, and MIL that I cooked. SD (10 at the time) was an utter brat; ignoring her father in favor of the computer, whining about the food, dumping it (at the time I thought deliberately) all over the place. We talked about handling SD, he swore to back me up.
The awesome part is, he has kept his word. I do not deal with BM, he does. We have similar ideas about how children should behave, and he takes the lead. He has *never* defended SD's bratty behavior to me.
We have created a great life together. The house is a peaceful sanctuary. We have fun together. We are each other's best friend. We have common interests, philosophies, and goals. We've had some rough times, but we worked through them.
Life is good.
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that is so refreshing...
and wonderful to hear!"~waiting on the world to change~"
hehe...another thing we have
hehe...another thing we have in common...my husband & I met online too! Glad to hear its worked for you!
How Wonderful
It sounds like your husband is a good man. It great to hear that you support eachother, that's what a relationship is all about.
So tell me what drugs is he taking so I can give my man some, LOL.
No drugs, Dani....
I swear, it's birth order and profession.
DH is the baby of 7, with 2 brothers and 4 sisters. His brothers were all out of the house by the time he was 3, so he learned to get along well with women in a household (or get pounded by his sisters). He also saw what happens when the man cheats; his dad did and it tore them all apart for a long time. Interestingly, after a second marriage for both, his parents got back together until my FIL died in 2005. I think the combo (women in charge and seeing that it is possible to reconcile after infidelity) let BM run all over him with golf spikes, but it's helped in our marriage during the rough times because he didn't give up on trying to work it out.
I also think that 17 years in the military helps; he's had years of directing subordinates, and has seen the chaos that results when a command team doesn't work together. A lot of the military is discipline and the importance of setting a good foundation of training; if you have both you're almost guaranteed success; if you're missing either, you're likely to fall on your face. Leading soldiers is similar to raising kids in my mind, you give them the tools to succeed and ensure they have the discipline to carry through and do it.
He also does all of the yardwork and laundry, and cleans the house. His tolerance for clutter and mess is lower than mine, and I don't mind cleaning bathrooms, which he hates. I also cook everything from scratch, ensuring we eat healthy and keeping the food bills down. We fell into a routine, and then talked about it to make sure nobody was getting resentful. Not bad for someone (me) who had never lived with anyone.