A little background info on what's been going on: at the beginning of summer, FDH had a blowup with BM (she was demanding where her CS was, regardless of the fact that there was a holiday so mail was delivered late - his CS goes through FRO; and she proceeded to call him every name in the book rather than talking to him like a human being) so he didn't pick up the kids for the whole summer - aka the BEST summer we've had in the last 7 years!

So anyway, this weekend, he agreed to get the kids (SS10 and SD9). And let's just say that nothing has changed: they are still as demanding and destructive and high maintenance as ever! On Saturday, SS10 climbed the fence (between our house and the neighbour) and started swinging on it (it literally was shifting back and forth) to try to get the neighbour's attention. FDH "grounded" them from playing outside for the rest of the weekend (SD9 and BS5 were there, too, but didn't say anything). Later, we went to run some errands and all through the trip, SS10 was asking "Can we get this? Can we get that?" FDH tried explaining to him why they wouldn't get any treats, but still SS10 was asking "Why not?" *facepalm* All weekend, they were fighting with each other - they would say they hated each other, yet follow each other around (?!?). FDH tried explaining to them that if they insisted on destroying our property and not listening, not to bother coming over anymore (harsh, I know, but nothing phases these kids!). He also told them that any damages they do will come out of their birthday/Christmas presents and you won't believe (well, I'm sure you will) the response:

FDH: "If you want to destroy our house, I'm going to start taking away your birthday presents"
SD9: "So? We'll still get presents from our mom" :jawdrop: :? :jawdrop:
So, clearly, they have no concept of responsibility. Their mother just spoils them and lets them run amok!

So anyway, they get home and of course, they spill the beans to their mother. So, she texts FDH, bitching about FDH's threat to reduce CS (he's doing that anyway) and how he won't be getting the kids anymore. She's basically mad because she won't be getting anymore money and she won't have her free weekends anymore. SMH Everything she texted to FDH (how he's not a "father", what a loser he is, etc), she should've been texting to herself. He told her about the fence and asked her if she would like to pay for any damages done to it - of course, she didn't say anything! These kids have no respect whatsoever for anything, not even their own stuff! And she just gets them more new things! It's no wonder they feel they can do whatever they want to other people's things!

*sigh* BM has really screwed up these kids - her oldest is now in foster care (her grandparents were charged with "abuse"), SS10 is headed straight to juvy (heck, even HE said it!), and I'll be SHOCKED if SD9 doesn't end up 16 and pregnant! And BM has the nerve to bitch US out????? CAS asked BM for SD11's CS (since she will be in foster care) and she said NO (!!!), yet she told FDH that she used that money to buy SS10 and SD9 new iPads for their birthdays! I can't even fathom the kind of nerve someone would have to have to do something like this! And we were supposed to have them in our wedding??? The last thing they need is an audience to witness their immaturity!

There's so much more I can rant about, but this was the gist of it. My thoughts today may be a liitle scattered - I can't seem to type as fast as I'm thinking LOL Anyway, that's a bit off my chest. Feel free to comment, or not comment. I'll be here, enjoying my mocha latte in relative silence