OMG!!!! I am so damn tired of hearing that. I think the only other ridiculous statement I absolutey hate is ...'you should have known what you were getting in to when you married someone with kids.'

I call bullshit on both of those statements and I don't care who gets pissed off about it.

Children do not come first! Parent's come first. Whether BP or SP. Childrens NEEDS are to be met first. This is totally different than the child coming first. Isn't that the real problem these days??? Children WANT this and that and BP's rain materialistic crap down on them to cover for their inability to be good parents. Maybe the BP's should have made sure they were compatible before they decided to breed. I don't see that in the SP handbook. What happens when the children's wants come first??? We end up with spoiled, entitled, and selfish drains on both the parents and society.

Knowing what I got in to before marrying someone with kids?? Seriously? I knew the BM was going to be a raging lunatic? I knew the skids were going to have behavioral problems? How was I supposed to know that? I certainly didn't raise them. Maybe if I had, they would be productive members of society instead of needy little leeches unable/unwilling to care for themselves. Somehow it's my fault that they came from a broken home? Which by the way, they were living in long before the divorce!

I am an adult SK. I have a wonderful relationship with my SM and my dad has been gone for 7 yrs now. It can work. My BP's raised me to have respect and self-awareness. They didn't raise me under the umbrella of guilt and buy my allegiance with materialistic goods. The marriage ended, period. My BP's knew their roles, and we (as children) knew where we stood. Other than the regular teenage drama, there was none of this crazy SP crap that I witnessed first hand and have seen printed on this forum.

I refuse to apologize for who I fell in love with and for having clear strong boundaries. It's not my fault that the BP's failed so miserably!

Alright, I am done with my rant. }:)